Consistent. You deserve a partner who treats you well consistently. Not only when he’s sober. Not only when he wants something. But every single moment he spends with you. If he’s only treating you with respect and admiration half the time, then he isn’t rising to your standards. The right person for you will be reliable and trustworthy. They’ll get in bad moods from time to time, but they’ll never feel like a total stranger. They’ll never turn into someone you don’t recognize.
Balance. A good partner knows how to balance their social life with their career, their family with their friends. They will set aside enough time for you, but they won’t neglect their other responsibilities in the process. They’ll strike the perfect balance so that their world feels full.
Clear-headed. A good partner won’t scream and curse at you when they’re upset. They’re able to manage their temper. Even though you might get into disagreements, they’ll never make you feel uncomfortable or frightened. They’ll never use violence, threats, or insults in order to get their way.
Observant. A good partner will pay close attention to your tone and behaviors. He might not be able to read your mind, but he’ll have a good idea when something is wrong. He’ll sense when you need to sit down and have a serious talk.
Flexible. A good partner is able to roll with the punches. After all, nothing ever goes as planned. There are going to be speedbumps in the road and it’s always nice to have someone to lean on who is able to stay calm and in control.
Vulnerable. A good partner will open up to you about their deepest emotions. They aren’t going to hide anything from you. They are going to share all of their secrets because they trust you with their heart. They put their feelings out in the open because they know you aren’t going to judge them.
Loyal. A good partner won’t stray from the relationship. They won’t be tempted to betray you with anyone else. They’ll stay faithful because they would never want to hurt you. They would never want to be the reason why you cry.
Compassionate. A good partner will care about your feelings, thoughts, and opinions. They’ll be understanding of your situation and try to see things from your point of view. Even if they don’t agree with you, they’ll be there for you. They’ll listen whenever you want to talk.
Authentic. A good partner will be honest and straightforward with you. They will tell you the truth, even when it’s hard to hear. They won’t say what they think you want to hear in order to keep you calm, then go back on their word. They won’t lie to impress you either. They’ll be unabashedly themselves.
Selfless. A good partner will think about what is best for the relationship, not only what is best for themselves. They will treat you as a priority, not a backup plan or inconvenience. They’ll care about your happiness as much as their own.