Brandon Woelfel

11 Concrete Signs You Have Chemistry Together

You will know when you have chemistry with someone. There’s an undeniable and strong connection, an intense energy between the two of you.

Here are some concrete signs to look out for:

Eye contact.

Love at first sight. Strong eye contact can typically indicate a deeper connection and attraction. When you maintain that eye contact and it feels like it’s just the two of you in the room, it’s a good sign that there’s comfortability and chemistry between the two of you. The eyes never lie.


According to psychologists, mirroring is a good sign of chemistry between two people. The subtle mimicry includes postures, gestures, or speech patterns. There’s synchrony too, which includes adjusting to each other’s tone and and rhythm of voice.

There’s something to be said about the concept behind twin flames: “mirrored souls” who see themselves in one another. That’s why twin flame connections are so strong.


There’s a strong connection between two people when they’re able to laugh with one another — and not like an uncomfortable fake laugh but a genuine belly laugh. Shared humor and giggling like school kids is a good sign that both people find each other funny and enjoy each other’s sense of humor.

Natural body language.

This one is science. When people feel chemistry, their body language changes. They are physically drawn to one another. Not only is there physical touch — a hand on the arm or shoulder as a means of feeling comfort and attraction towards the other person — but natural body language. You lean in, face each other, and no longer cross your arms. You become more open, relaxed, and inviting.

Intense attraction.

This is an obvious one, but if there’s palpable sexual tension between the two of you, it’s a good indicator that there’s chemistry. It’s about heightened awareness of each other’s presence, physical touch, eye contact, and an undeniable tension.

Engaging conversation.

When there’s chemistry between two people, conversation flows naturally and effortlessly. Both are you are engaged and attentive. Both of you are genuinely interested in what the other person has to say, asking questions and genuinely wanting to know more. Both of you share interests and actually have something to talk about — and maybe even something to look forward to doing together. There’s no uncomfortable silence or wondering what to say next. If there is silence, it doesn’t feel awkward. It just feels like peace. It’s all very natural and easy.

Interest in personal lives.

When the two of you are expressing an interest in each other’s personal lives — work, hobbies, background, life experiences – it’s a good sign there’s chemistry. It shows that you both want to learn about one another and maybe even get to know each other on a deeper level. “You told me about your past thinking your future was me…”

Consistent communication.

If they’re interested in you, they will talk to you. They will engage in communication, in one way or another. Even if they’re busy and can’t hold a conversation, they will still, at the very least, make the effort to check in. They won’t ghost and won’t play games. If there’s genuine chemistry between two people, the communication will be regular and enthusiastic.

Nervous excitement.

It’s completely normal to feel a mix of nervousness and excitement before seeing someone. That can indicate there’s a strong emotional connection — and chemistry — there.

Time flies.

Spending time together is one thing, but not realizing how much time has passed while in each other’s presence is another. When there’s chemistry between two people, you’re in the moment. You’re engaged, enjoying each other’s company.

Resonating values.

You can’t have good chemistry with someone unless you feel comfortable with them, and that comfortability can stem from a sense of familiarity and shared understanding of something. If you share values, beliefs, and life goals with someone, there’s a good chance you might have a level of chemistry with them.