You can’t be there for everyone who needs you. Even though you want to help out every family member and friend who asks you for help, it’s not healthy to overextend yourself. You can’t come running whenever they need you, at the expense of your own mental health. And you can’t punish yourself when a loved one falls down the wrong path. It’s not up to you to save them. You can’t fix their problems, even though you so desperately want to make them happy. You need to learn to accept that it’s not your job to fix every problem you hear about. You need to take a step back from their issues and focus on your own. Be gentle with yourself. You’re not superhuman. Stop trying to be.
You’re a perfectionist, but you can’t let that get in the way of your well-being. Life is messy. No matter how much you plan, some things aren’t going to work out the way you want. Sometimes, shit happens. It’s not your fault. It’s just the way it goes. I know that can be hard to grasp, especially since you put in so much effort because you care so much. While that’s a beautiful quality, you need to learn to be flexible. You don’t want to fall apart whenever the tiniest thing goes wrong. Be gentle with yourself. Remember that making mistakes is normal. It’s human. Don’t hate yourself over something small. Don’t tear yourself apart whenever there’s a slight inconvenience. Learn to accept that life is imperfect.
You’ve been way too hard on yourself lately. You keep pushing yourself to the point of burning out. You care so deeply about success that you’ve shoved everything else to the side – including your own mental health. However, you aren’t going to reach your goals if you end up exhausting yourself. You need to be careful with your work/life balance. Even though your career matters to you, you can’t disregard everything else that brings you joy. You need to set aside some time for fun activities, too. You need to be gentle with yourself on the days when you need a break. Don’t punish yourself for being lazy. It’s important to rest, no matter how large your goals might be.
You’re an overthinker and a people-pleaser. You want everyone around you to be happy and will feel like it’s your fault if they’re upset. But their emotions are not your responsibility. While it’s wonderful that you treat everyone with such love and kindness, it’s okay to focus on your own needs. It’s not selfish to worry about yourself for a change. You deserve attention, too. You deserve to feel okay, too. You don’t want to spend so much time thinking about how to make other people happy that you forget to do little things for yourself. Be gentle with your heart. Pay attention to its cracks. Work toward making yourself feel better before you concern yourself with everyone else.