4 Zodiacs Who Must Set Boundaries Before December Hits

When we push someone’s boundaries, more often than not, it’s for harmless reasons; a boss wants you to stay at work late to prepare for a presentation tomorrow, or a friend wants you to stay for one more drink because they’re having so much fun. But over time, many of us forget there are requests we can — and should — say no to.

Over time, resentment over the fact that people are constantly taking from you can build up. Resentment that the other person might not even be aware of because they don’t know there were boundaries of yours they crossed. While most of us would love never to say no to anyone, setting boundaries is an important — and healthy — part of any relationship, whether with your friend or your boss.

“Boundaries are the framework we set for ourselves on how we want to be treated by others and how we treat other people,” Karen Salerno, MSSA, LISW-S, tells Cleveland Clinic. “It’s setting up how you want to be treated, it promotes physical and emotional wellbeing, and it respects your needs and the other person’s needs in a relationship.”

Some zodiac signs have more people-pleasing, caregiving, or conflict-avoidant traits, making boundaries hard to set and enforce.

Cancer

Your deep desire to both care for others and stay busy makes it impossible to care for yourself, Cancer. There’s no time left, which is at least a little bit (if not a lot) by design. The more you care for other people, the less reason they’ll have to leave — and the less time you’ll have to worry about them leaving. Turn some of that protective nature inward to guard space and time for yourself, your needs, and your wants before you push away everyone you’re trying to keep close.

Libra

Just in case saying no leads to someone being disappointed or, God forbid, a conflict, you just always say yes. Libra, this diplomacy plan will backfire if you don’t learn how to put up hard borders around what you want and need. Saying no to something you don’t want to do or picking what you and your partner eat for dinner won’t upset that balance. In fact, getting what you need every once in a while will help keep the harmony flowing.

Sagittarius

As another year ends, you’re again looking at your calendar, wondering how you overbooked yourself this much. Again. Year after year, you say yes to everything without checking to see if you’re already busy, just because the project sounds fun. While you’ve always made it work in the past, this usually happens at the expense of your sleep schedule. Your energy levels aren’t what they used to be. Make sure you can enjoy the things you’ve committed to by making sure you’re not overbooking.

Gemini

You might actually get what you want sometimes, Gemini, if you make your preferences known to those around you. Your ability to adapt doesn’t mean you don’t get to have likes and dislikes — even if you change your mind about them tomorrow. What’s more frustrating for other people is for you to pretend to have no opinion — or worse, actually having no opinion at all.