5 Concrete Signs He Will Only Ever Give You The Bare Minimum

There are some people who will go above and beyond to make sure their partner feels happy and secure in the relationship. And there are some people who merely give the bare minimum.

Here are some signs that he will only ever give you the bare minimum:

Lack of or bad communication.

Your partner avoids having deep or hard conversations with you. They don’t talk about the future, personal goals, or issues in the relationship that need addressing. They listen to respond rather than listen to understand. They rarely express empathy or compassion for you when you are opening up about your feelings. They don’t reply to messages consistently or take into account your anxious feelings.

If your partner is doing any of these things and you’ve expressed your concerns to them about it and they still haven’t changed, then there’s a good chance they’re going to continue this. They’re going to continue giving you the bare minimum.

Emotional detachment and minimal intimacy.

When someone gives you the bare minimum in a relationship, it often means they have no or little emotional attachment. It’s emotional unavailability, really. They’re distant and avoidant of feelings — theirs and yours. They don’t bother putting in effort to connect or be intimate. Some might put in the effort with physical affection, but not all will put in the effort to connect on a deeper level. They might be intimate, but not intimate.

Infrequent quality time.

We all have lives outside of our relationship: friends, colleagues, family, and hobbies. But if your partner doesn’t prioritize you and your quality time together, there’s a good chance they don’t care enough to give more than just the bare minimum effort. They don’t suggest a date night once a week. They don’t ask to hang out, but instead, spend time with you only when you bring it up. They don’t go on little getaway trips with you. They don’t put in the effort to spend quality time together. They might also cancel plans or not follow through with commitments. They often leave you feeling disappointed and undervalued.

Little to no support or appreciation.

Your partner doesn’t offer any emotional support when you need it. You tell them about the fight you’re having with a friend or about your tough day at work and all they can muster up is Aw, I’m sorry. Or, worse, they don’t even acknowledge it. They don’t offer you a listening ear or a shoulder to cry on. They don’t ask if you need anything to cheer you up. They show little interest in you and your emotional well-being.

Not only that, but they show little interest in your interests, hobbies, or life outside of the relationship. They don’t ask about the yoga class you took this morning or the book you’ve been reading. They fail to acknowledge you as a person.

And maybe, they might even fail to acknowledge your efforts in the relationship. They don’t express gratitude for the love, care, affection, and effort you bring to the relationship.

Minimal effort in resolving conflicts

This goes back to emotional detachment and lack of communication. They avoid addressing relationship problems. When there’s a conflict, they ignore it. Or, they are resistant to compromise. They don’t make sacrifices. They don’t care enough to try to make the relationship work.

Some people aren’t as emotionally available as you would like them to be. If you’re in a relationship with someone who cannot love, support, and respect you in the way that you deserve, then you need to let them go. If someone does not have the capacity to treat you the way you deserve to be treated and puts no effort into making more of an effort, then there is no reason for you to stay. If they only give you the bare minimum, then you need to let them go.