5 Concrete Signs That Your Almost Relationship Won’t Turn Into More
Almost relationships are the worst because you’re never sure how serious the other person sees your relationship. You’re never sure whether they are worth your time or should be part of your past. But in order to help you figure it out, here are some concrete signs that your almost relationship probably won’t turn into more, no matter how long you wait or how many second chances you give:
They give you vague, non-answers about pretty much everything.
When you ask about the status of your relationship, they won’t give you a straight answer. When you ask whether they’re busy this weekend or are planning on making time to see you, they won’t give you a straight answer. When you ask about exes or other people they’re romantically involved with, they won’t give you a straight answer. They are always vague or change the subject. They never fully let you into what they’re thinking or doing.
They keep making and breaking the same promises.
They have been stringing you along by swearing there is a real future in store — but everything that they’ve been promising to do for you and everywhere they’ve been promising to take you has turned out to be false. Of course, they don’t admit they were lying about what they were willing to give. They make excuses about how life has been hectic lately or they had an unexpected change of plans. It’s technically never their fault so they keep using the same promises and hoping you’ll believe it the second (or third or fourth) time around.
They are hard to reach.
You can never get ahold of them when you want to talk. You only interact based on their schedule. When they want to reach out to you, they won’t stop texting until they get an answer. But they aren’t going to ‘inconvenience’ themselves by trying to accommodate your schedule. It’s all about them. They don’t care what’s convenient for you. They only want you around when it makes sense in their schedule, when they’re feeling lonely or bored or turned on. Their feelings clearly matter more than yours.
They already know how you feel and still haven’t made things official.
If you’ve been giving subtle signs you’re interested, maybe they aren’t confident you have feelings for them. But if you’ve made your stance perfectly clear and have told them that you want a relationship and they still aren’t putting a label on your arrangement, that’s a choice. The ball is clearly in their corner and if they aren’t interested in calling this a relationship, that tells you all you need to know.
You want separate things from the future.
It doesn’t matter if your chemistry is off the charts. If it feels like you are moving in separate directions or want a future that looks completely different than what they want, then a relationship isn’t going to work even if you both put in the effort. You need to be on the same page so that neither of you ends up sacrificing the things that mean the most to you.