You stick to a dull routine because you’re terrified of the unknown.
You should never settle for okay because you’re afraid to ask for more. You’re allowed to be greedy when it comes to your hopes and dreams. You’re allowed to decide that what you have isn’t good enough and that you’re hungry for more. If you’re happy where you are, then by all means, enjoy every moment. But if you aren’t satisfied, don’t convince yourself that this is the best you’re going to get. Don’t trick yourself into settling for a life that isn’t making you truly happy. It’s okay if you want more. Go out and fight for it.
You keep giving second chances to people who are continuing to hurt you.
Even though it’s hard to say goodbye to people who have been in your life a long time, people who you have a soft spot for, you need to do the best thing for yourself. Sometimes, walking away from an unhealthy relationship is the only way to move forward with more confidence and hope. Sometimes, the end of a certain relationship is the start of something new. The beginning that you deserve.
You always say yes, even when your plate is already full.
You can’t please everyone. Sometimes, you’re going to have to let others down for the sake of your own sanity. You don’t want to burn yourself out by running around, doing favors for everyone who asks. When someone needs your help, ask yourself whether you have the mental and emotional energy to be there for them the way they need. Ask yourself whether you’re going to be harming yourself by having their back. Even though you want to help everyone out, sometimes, you need to put yourself first.
You make excuses for everyone who hurts you.
Whenever someone disrespects you, you make excuses for them. It doesn’t matter whether or not they apologize for their behavior because you’ve already forgiven them. If they treated someone you love so horribly, you would never get over it. But since they’re treating you horribly, you don’t say a word. Part of you believes you deserve their harsh treatment. But you can’t keep letting others walk over you. You can’t ignore it when others take advantage of your kind heart. You need to speak up. Defend yourself. Raise your expectations and make sure everyone around you knows it.
You avoid confrontation at all costs.
As much as you hate drama, you can’t pretend you’re perfectly fine when someone has hurt your feelings. Sweeping the issue under the rug isn’t going to solve your problems. It’s only going to make them worse. If you don’t tell anyone how hurt you are by their actions, they’re going to keep treating you the same way. They won’t realize they’ve done anything wrong. Or maybe they’re well aware that they’re doing the wrong thing but assume they can get away with it. Either way, they aren’t going to change unless you tell them where you stand. You don’t have to play nice all the time. If someone else is rude, make it clear you won’t stand for their behavior any longer. You deserve more.