Although it’s important to treat others with kindness and respect, you don’t want to be too nice and end up getting walked over. It’s important to stand tall and confident, so you don’t get pushed around by people who are comfortable controlling you. Here are the concrete signs you need to be more cutthroat in your next life chapter:
You keep friends and partners in your life, long after they have stopped deserving you.
You don’t want to allow others to walk all over you. If you feel like someone has been disrespecting you and only makes your life harder, then you don’t have to keep them around out of some imaginary sense of loyalty. You are allowed to cut them out of your life. You don’t owe them your time and attention, so stop giving it to them. Actions have consequences, so if their actions have been hurting you, then the best thing you can do for yourself is walk away. Don’t give chance after chance that they don’t deserve.
You never speak up about your boundaries.
It’s not unkind to be clear about your expectations, standards, and limits. You should feel comfortable expressing your boundaries to your partners and friends because the will respect them if they genuinely care about you. You shouldn’t feel pressured to ignore your boundaries because you’re worried about chasing someone away. If they aren’t going to give you what you need, then you’re better off without them anyway.
You let other people make the decisions without giving any input.
You don’t have to start bossing others around — but you shouldn’t continue to let them boss you around either. Instead of allowing others to make every single decision for you, speak up about what you want. Offer up your opinion. Don’t fool yourself into thinking your wants and needs don’t matter because they do.
You automatically do what other people expect from you.
This is your life. You get to make your own decisions. You shouldn’t be making choices based on what your parents or partners or society as a whole wants from you. You shouldn’t let them decide which path your life is going to take because that is up to you and you alone. Stop trying to impress others or make them proud. Make yourself proud. Do what you genuinely want to do because it’s impossible to please everyone anyway.
You are always apologizing when the other person was in the wrong.
It’s wonderful that you’re willing to take responsibility for your mistakes. That’s incredibly important if you want to continue growing. However, you shouldn’t assume every crappy situation is your fault. You shouldn’t let others get away with their bad behavior, just because you care about them. You need to hold them responsible. Don’t make excuses for them. Don’t let them trick you into thinking you were the one who messed up when you both know they were the problem.
You keep your emotions bottled up inside.
You can’t be afraid to speak your mind in your next life chapter. You need to vocalize what you want. Be brutally honest because your emotions are valid. They’re worth hearing. Let yourself feel and let those feelings loose.