6 Concrete Signs You Shouldn’t Agree To Another Date

You aren’t obligated to continue dating someone, just because you’ve gone out once or twice before. If you aren’t feeling the chemistry and don’t think they have what it takes to make you happy, then it’s okay to cut contact with them. It’s okay to stay single for a while longer. Here are the signs that you shouldn’t agree to another date with them:

One of you is dominating every conversation.

You don’t want to be forced to carry every single conversation. But you don’t want the other person to be talking without listening either. There should be a comfortable balance. You should feel like you’re given the space to talk, but not like you’re obligated to keep the conversation going on your own. There should be a back and forth. A give and take.

You feel like they aren’t prioritizing you.

You can’t be in the front and center of their mind all the time. But when you’re out on a date with them, it’s natural to want their attention on you and only you. If their eyes are wandering, checking out other people, or if they’re staring at their phone answering emails all night then scrolling through social media, they aren’t making the most of their time with you. So you shouldn’t feel the need to set aside any more time for them.

You have spotted a major dealbreaker.

Relationships are about more than attraction and chemistry. They’re about finding someone who wants the same things that you do. If this person has made it clear they’re looking for a completely different type of partnership than you are, then you might as well part ways early. Especially if you’re both hoping to settle down soon. There’s no reason to keep going out when one of your fundamental beliefs or life goals doesn’t align.

You feel pressured to be someone else around them.

You shouldn’t be spending the majority of the date faking smiles and laughs. You shouldn’t be faking your likes and dislikes either. If you can’t be your true self around this person, then a long-term relationship is never going to work out. Of course, you might not feel at ease on the first day because it could take some time to warm up to each other, but if you have a bad gut feeling and can’t relax around this person, don’t waste another second on them. It’s important to feel comfortable around each other.

You feel like you’re getting strung along.

If they keep making promises they aren’t following through on, you don’t need them. If their actions and their words never match up, you don’t need them. If their stories aren’t adding up and it feels like they’re already keeping secrets from you, you don’t need them. Hold out for a relationship built on honesty.

You honestly have no interest in seeing them again.

You don’t have to give everyone you meet a second chance. If you genuinely aren’t interested in going out with them again, then don’t prolong the inevitable. Say goodbye now to save both of you some trouble. Although you might feel guilty about cutting them out so soon, you don’t owe anyone your time or attention. If you aren’t interested, that’s okay. That’s part of dating.