6 Reminders To Help You Get Over A Bare Minimum Man
It sucks when a relationship with someone decent ends, simply because they weren’t willing to meet you halfway. Because they expected you to do all the work in the relationship. Here are some reminders to help you get over someone who refused to put an equal amount of effort into the relationship:
You’re better off on your own than you were in an unfulfilling relationship that was going nowhere. Even though you might feel like you wasted months or years of your time with the wrong person, you should be proud of yourself for walking away before anymore time was wasted. You’re free to do as you please now. You can find someone better or you can enjoy life on your own. Either way, you’re on the right route. Give yourself some applause for that.
You are worthy of more, so you should demand more. You aren’t supposed to shrink yourself to fit into a relationship. If someone isn’t giving you the attention and respect you deserve, then you’re better off without them in your world. You deserve the best. It’s not greedy. It’s a fact. Remember, holding out for the right person means you’re bound to spend some time alone. That time is important. It’s crucial to ending up where you were meant to be.
Other people out there are willing to put in effort for you. Never feel like you aren’t worth the effort. Like you’ll always be the one who cares more. There is someone out there who would be happy to go out of their way for you. Someone who won’t even bat an eye when you ask for help because they want to be there in every possible way.
The right person would never have treated you this way. You might be frustrated that this person didn’t rise to your expectations – especially since the relationship wasn’t as horrible as some others you’ve witnessed in the past. But if this person isn’t meeting your needs, there’s nothing you can do. You can’t force them to change. You gave them a chance and they blew it. That’s on them. Not on you.
Recognizing your worth is the first step toward getting everything you’ve ever wanted. The fact that you’re refusing to settle is huge. Your happiness is more important than your relationship status. It’s more important than hitting certain milestones by certain ages. It’s so much better to be with the right person than to be with any person at an earlier age. It doesn’t matter how long it takes you to find someone worth your while. What matters is that you love yourself and that you refused to settle for less than you deserved.
You did the right thing. Even though your ex might accuse you of asking for too much or point out all of the nice things they’ve done for you over the course of the relationship, that doesn’t mean that you’re a monster. You did what you had to do. After all, doing a few nice things here and there doesn’t make up for the ways that they’ve failed you in the past. And if you’re unhappy, you’re unhappy. You don’t need a bigger reason to leave. If you want to go, then you can go.