If you’re having trouble in the dating world, you might be dating the wrong people. Or you might be giving them the wrong idea. Remember, first impressions are important. You don’t want to pretend you’re someone you’re not, but you don’t want to be on your worst behavior, either. Here are some signs you’re giving off bad vibes that could end up chasing away your crushes:
You find something negative about every single situation.
There’s nothing wrong with sharing your opinion, but if you always find a way to turn good news into bad news and are always brushing off compliments by insulting yourself, then people might not love your vibes. They don’t want your bad mood to rub off on them. They want to have fun. They want to enjoy themselves.
You’re always staring at your phone.
When you’re speaking with someone, try your hardest to keep your focus on them. If you aren’t present, they’re going to notice. And they might take offense. Staring at your phone suggests that you’re bored by them – or worse, that you don’t have respect for them. That you aren’t interested in hearing what they have to say because you have better things to worry about.
You keep your guard too high.
There’s nothing wrong with protecting yourself. You don’t owe anyone anything – but if you’re hoping to get closer to someone, you have to give a little personal information out. You have to share your thoughts and opinions. You can’t expect them to do all the talking. You can’t shut down conversations because you don’t want to reveal too much about yourself. Otherwise, they’re going to feel like you don’t trust them, like you want nothing to do with them.
You gossip about others and straight-up insult them.
Sometimes, you can bond over discussing people you both can’t stand. But if you have something nasty to say about every single person you know, then this other person is going to assume that you’re talking badly behind their back, too. They’re going to wonder whether you are loyal to anyone. And that is bound to chase them away.
You aren’t as supportive as you could be.
When others confide in you about their hopes and dreams, they’re looking for encouragement. Not advice or a reality check. If you’re trying to talk them into lowering their expectations so they don’t get disappointed, they could view you as a hater. While there’s nothing wrong with being a realist, you need to be careful about how you frame your concerns because you don’t want to destroy someone’s big dreams.
You pretend to agree with everything they say.
There’s nothing wrong with telling little white lies every once in a while, but you don’t want to pretend you’re a completely different person with a different set of interests in order to impress someone else. Others are eventually going to pick up on the fact that you’re lying – or at least sense that something is off about the conversation. It’s always better to be yourself. It’s always better to tell the truth.