You’re going to need some time to heal after getting your heart broken. It’s a good idea to stay single for a while while you get used to living life without your ex. However, you don’t want to spend too much time wallowing in the past. Here are a few signs that you’re ready to love again after a brutal heartbreak:
You are optimistic about what the future holds.
It’s okay if you’re a little worried about letting your guard down again. It’s natural to feel scared about putting yourself out there. But you don’t want to enter a new relationship assuming that it’s going to end poorly. Assuming that they’re going to cheat. Assuming that they are going to ruin your life. You need to have some hope that this time it’ll work out.
Your ex isn’t the only person on your mind anymore.
You might think about them from time to time. After all, they were an important part of your world. Of course they’re going to pop into your head occasionally. But you aren’t wondering what they’re doing every second of every day. You aren’t rereading old texts from them anymore and searching for answers. You know that section of your life is closed. You have accepted what happened, and even if you aren’t happy about it, you understand there’s nothing you can do to change it. It’s over now. You two are done.
You want a partner to enhance your life, not to escape your life.
You don’t want to jump right into a new relationship after getting your heart broken because you’re scared of being alone. You don’t want to latch onto the first person you find because you think it beats being single again. If you spend some time on your own, and learn to enjoy your own company, you’ll know that you aren’t entering your next relationship for the wrong reasons. You’ll know you’re only getting closer to them to enhance a life you already love, not to escape a life you desperately hate.
You have worked on your problem areas.
Even though the baggage your ex gave you isn’t your fault, it’s still your responsibility to deal with it. You don’t want to treat your new partner terribly because your last relationship taught you that was how love works. Remember you’re a work in progress. You aren’t going to be perfect, but you can at least put in the effort to treat your partner the way you want them to treat you.
You, alone, have made the decision to date again.
You aren’t jumping back into the dating world because you feel pressured to settle down, because you want to make your ex jealous, or because you feel like you’re running out of time. You’re doing this for you. Because this is what you want.
You are emotionally available.
You’re ready to receive love – and to give love. You’re not going to run away the second things get hard. You’re willing to put in the effort it takes to love someone completely. You are excited to find someone who is worth all that energy.