8 Green Flags That He Won’t Hurt You Like Your Ex
He comes to you as soon as there’s a problem. Instead of letting your problems fester, he comes to you when there’s an issue. He fills you in on how he’s feeling, so that you aren’t left in the dark. Instead of hoping the problem will magically go away or acting like it’s not that big of a deal, he tackles it with you immediately so it doesn’t snowball and become bigger and bigger.
He works alongside you when you have a problem. He doesn’t act like you’re a bother when you come to him with your problems. He listens to what you have to say and takes steps to solve the problem. His first instinct isn’t to blame you or accuse you of overreacting. It’s to come to a compromise. It’s to make sure that you feel comfortable in the relationship.
He is serious about his commitment to you. He isn’t stringing you along without a label. He isn’t making excuses about why he won’t introduce you to his friends and family. He treats you like a partner and tells the world that you’re his partner. That means he deletes his dating apps. He stops flirting with other people and creating backup plans. He makes it clear that you’re the only one who has his heart.
He takes your side when others cross boundaries. If his friends or family are making you uncomfortable, he steps in. He makes it clear that you aren’t going to be treated like that by his loved ones or anyone else. He doesn’t keep quiet while you’re silently suffering. He takes action because he cares more about your comfort than keeping the peace with people treating you terribly.
He apologizes whenever he makes a mistake. He owns up to his shit. He doesn’t make excuses for his bad behavior. He takes responsibility when he messes up and he figures out ways to move forward with you as a stronger couple. He actually puts effort into changing and growing because he believes you deserve the best of him.
He has a compatible picture of your future together. He wants the same things that you want and he’s willing to take the steps to make it happen. He isn’t dragging his feet about marriage or kids because it’s either something you both want or something you both don’t want. Either way, you’re on the same page, so neither of you will end up resenting the other.
He helps you make decisions, both big and small. He doesn’t force you to pick the restaurant and movie every time. He has ideas of his own. He helps you come to decisions so you don’t feel like you’re doing all the work in the relationship. He brainstorms with you.
He contributes to the relationship in meaningful ways. He texts first. Comforts you. Supports you. Laughs with you. Helps with chores and date planning. You don’t feel like you’re the only one trying or the one who cares more because he contributes to the relationship in as many ways as you do.