The 6 Worst People To Date If Your Love Language Is Acts Of Service

People who make you ask them ten times before they’ll do something. You love when your person volunteers to clean the dishes or walk the dog without you having to ask. It makes you feel like this person is able to anticipate your needs before you even speak them aloud, like you’re really in tune with each other. So when you’re forced to ask them for help – or worse, nag them again and again because they aren’t following through on something they promised they would do – it annoys you. There’s nothing worse than feeling like you have to give them orders to treat you right.

People who aren’t perceptive of your feelings. The best thing someone can do for you, since your love language is acts of service, is notice when you’re extra stressed out or aren’t feeling the greatest, and then take charge and help you out. But if they don’t even notice that your attitude has changed, that you aren’t feeling the same way you usually do, there’s no chance they’re going to go above and beyond to help you out. You deserve someone who pays close attention to details. Someone who notices when something is wrong without you spelling it out for them.

People who expect you to do the majority of the work in the relationship. Relationships are supposed to be two-way streets. Especially for people who consider acts of service their love language. You don’t want to be stuck doing all the chores. You don’t want all the responsibilities of the relationship to fall on you. That isn’t fair to you – and when you feel like you’re given extra work to do while your partner is lazing about, you aren’t going to be happy. The relationship isn’t going to last.

People who only think about themselves. Sometimes, the smallest things make you the happiest. Like when your partner comes home from the store with a small snack for you, or when they make coffee for you first thing in the morning so it’s ready when you wake up. It shows that they were thinking of you. That you are always on their mind, even when you’re far apart physically. But if your person never takes your thoughts or opinions into consideration, you are going to feel neglected. You are going to feel unloved. And you deserve so much more.

People who do the bare minimum. You aren’t going to last in a relationship with someone who does the least amount that they feel like they can get away with doing. You need someone who goes above and beyond, who does extra things because they love seeing you happy and making you smile. If your person isn’t interested in putting in effort, then you aren’t going to stay interested in them for long.

People who are passive and need to be told what to do. You want a partner who comes up with cute date ideas and executes them. A partner who comes up with ideas for how to make you happy – whether it’s drawing you a bath or making a spa appointment for you – and does it without needing to be begged. If you have to order your person around on a daily basis, you’re going to feel exhausted soon.