5 Concrete Signs You Need To Care Less About What Others Think In Your Next Life Chapter

You don’t want to spend your whole life trying to please others, because you’re only going to end up failing. After all, it’s impossible to please every other person because they all have different expectations for you – and you should be doing what you want anyway. Here are the concrete signs you need to start caring less about what others think in your next life chapter:

You make your decisions based on what would upset the least amount of people.

Other people can factor into your decision making. But they shouldn’t be the main thing you’re thinking about when you’re choosing what to do with your own life. It doesn’t matter if the people around you approve. You need to give yourself your best shot at happiness. You need to make the selfish decision for once and follow your heart, not the crowd. 

Most things that you do are out of obligation or tradition, not love or passion.

You don’t have to continue along the path you’ve always been on, just because it’s what’s expected of you. You don’t have to follow in anyone’s footsteps in order to make them proud. You can be your own person. Make your own decisions. Forge your own path. Follow your passions, not the traditions that have been passed down to you because you are not your parents. You are not your siblings or cousins. You are an individual who might find happiness in a completely different place than those around you.

You feel like you have lost pieces of yourself, and aren’t even sure who you are anymore.

If you mindlessly do what others want for too long, you could end up losing touch with yourself. You could end up taking on the personalities of the people around you and thinking that you like what they like and hate what they hate, even when this isn’t genuine. In order to fix this, you need to spend some time alone with your own thoughts. Ask yourself what you would want to do with your life if no one else was watching, no one else was judging.  

You feel swamped with guilt whenever you aren’t people-pleasing.

Even though it’s natural to want to make the people around you proud, you shouldn’t feel like a disappointment or a failure when you make a decision they disagree with. The people who genuinely love you will want what’s best for you, even if that means your life will look different than they originally hoped. You can’t allow your guilt over ‘disappointing’ them to cloud your judgement because they people who matter the most won’t care what you do as long as you’re happy.

You always try to make the least amount of waves.

You don’t want to cause any trouble, so you hold back from speaking your mind and standing up for yourself – which shouldn’t be the case. You deserve to be treated well, and you deserve to have your voice heard. You shouldn’t shrink yourself to benefit others. You shouldn’t make yourself miserable just so they like you more.