Choose A Passionate Love, Not A Conflict-Free One

If I could do it again, I would. 

If I had the choice to choose between a passionate love and never experiencing love again, I’d choose passion in a heartbeat.

People always say that I made the wrong choice. That instead, I should have chosen stability and security over a life full of highs and lows. But in all honesty, the only people who have said to choose boredom over a life filled with passion and love are those who’ve never experienced it before. They’re the same people who advocate for choosing your passions and interests, but then follow a life that provides them with more financial security and materialistic belongings simply because it’s easier and it’s the “right” way to live. 

When you choose a love full of security and stability, the love may feel empty within. Even when the relationship ends, a stable love may feel like there was so much time wasted, as if it wasn’t worthwhile in the first place. It may be easy to wonder if it was truly worth the effort and persistence that one puts into these relationships and whether or not one even gained something out of it for the time being. And lastly, the never-ending feeling of regret for even spending that many years with a person when you didn’t even feel a spark is a clear sign that the love was empty and boring and it never fulfilled you in the ways a passionate love could.

You see, I don’t want what everyone else has; I don’t even care if it’s the norm. Even if choosing a love for security and stability is the most sensible and practical choice to make, I truly don’t want something that is so indifferent and apathetic that it doesn’t even make my heart beat at the thought of it. I don’t want stability if it means constant dread and disinterest, and I truly don’t believe in that or in something that is so comfortable that two people stop growing into better people. You’ll come to find that the things a stable and secure love cares about doesn’t really matter; it doesn’t matter how much money the person makes or how attractive the other person is, because a passionate love does not fade away much, like how money or looks do through time. 

Stability is what everyone seeks in life and it is so overrated. People around you might say they want the stability that comes with knowing that there is always security in the relationship. But what if it’s lackluster, apathetic, indifferent, or complacent? And what if there is a better type of love, one that is passionate, exciting, and ever-changing?

Nothing compares to having a wonderful, once-in-a-lifetime love that is full of passion and excitement. There is no regret that comes from loving the person and the time shared. The only sort of regret you’ll feel in a passionate love is questions of why it ended in the first place and why it didn’t last as long as it could have. Because even if the relationship ends, no one can take away the experience of loving a person so passionately and vividly that it ultimately changes you into a better person. And the best part is that the memories in a passionate love are looked back upon with nostalgia and fondness rather than regret and remorse for even loving the other person. 

Even though relationships that are stable and secure are touted to be “conflict-free,” I would argue that conflict is necessary as long as you’re fighting beside the person. It’s inevitable that conflicts and disagreements will happen, but as long as you’re still trying in the relationship, that is enough reason to stay. And most people who choose a passionate love would say the same thing, and they wouldn’t trade it for anything more “stable” if it means that they don’t get to share a one-of-a-kind, remarkable type of love. 

Because a passionate love feels like a union between the heartbeats of one another and the same companionship feelings as clasping hands together. A passionate love feels like a spark that ignites a fire within your chest that devours and consumes you. A passionate love feels completely wrapped and enveloped in every single thought of the person. A passionate love feels like losing yourself within the person and finding them safe in your arms all at the same time. 

It’s a hard road to walk, but at the end of the day, choose yourself and choose a passionate love. Because you’ll come to realize that you wouldn’t trade a passionate love for anything in the world, even if the world offered you riches, fame, or fortune. 

So choose a passionate love and a passionate love will offer you a hand to hold. Choose a passionate love and you will be repaid with the same amount of excitement, loyalty, dedication, and commitment tenfold. Choose a passionate love, and you will choose a life full of adventures and endeavors for an endless lifetime. So choose passionate love with me.