Distance Is The Best Revenge For Those Who Didn’t Deserve You

There are some people in this life you can’t help but love so deeply, so fiercely. Sometimes, though, those people are not meant for you to love them. Sometimes, these people are undeserving of your love.

Someone who takes advantage of your kindness, who never gives you the space to say when your feelings are hurt, who assumes you will always be there for them, who makes you feel small — these people are not meant for you to love. These people often expect and are unappreciative of all that you give — and that’s why you have to let them go.

There will be a moment when you realize the way you’ve been mistreated. You will notice how cruel you were to yourself for accepting any less than you deserved.

You will feel sad and sorry for yourself for not wondering, Is this what I want? Don’t I deserve more? You will feel hurt and ashamed for letting yourself accept anything less than you deserved — but you have to forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for getting so lost in it, for abandoning yourself for as long as you did.

You will feel angry, too. You will want revenge in some way — and you might even want them to hurt the way you did. But you can’t fight fire with fire. You fight by walking away. You fight for yourself by walking away.

Remember this: Distance is the best revenge for those who didn’t deserve you.

Cut off all contact — don’t let them have access to you and your kindness. Don’t waste your time or energy trying to communicate. Believe and know that one day they will notice your absence. They might even reach out, expecting you to be there, but you can’t give them that. Let them lose you. Let them miss you.

It will be hard at first, but then one day, you will think about them less and less. One day, they will be irrelevant and you will feel indifferent toward them. One day, you will feel lighter without them.