Don’t Chase Someone Who Can’t Even Answer Your Texts

There’s nothing wrong with making the first move. If you like someone, then feel free to chase after them – within reason. You don’t want to expend too much of your energy on a person who is never going to appreciate what you’re putting yourself through for them. You never want to make yourself miserable by giving someone one too many chances. If they aren’t giving you an ounce of attention, even after you’ve been bending over backwards for them, you shouldn’t keep bugging them until they change their mind. You shouldn’t have to show them why you’re worthy of their time and attention. They should already see your value. They should understand how much you have to offer.

Remember, there’s a difference between pursuing someone who is letting you take the lead and chasing after someone who doesn’t want to be caught. There’s nothing wrong with going after what (or who) you want. It takes courage to push aside your fears and take that risk. Even though you should be proud of yourself for putting yourself out there, you don’t want to take it too far. You don’t want to chase after someone who doesn’t want anything to do to you. You don’t want to keep running in the wrong direction.

Remember, you don’t want to chase after someone who won’t even answer your texts. After all, if they aren’t able to get back to you when they carry their phone around everywhere, what are the chances they’re going to meet your other standards? Answering a text might not sound like a huge deal, but it’s an easy thing to do. It only takes seconds. And if they like you as much as you like them, then they will want to have a conversation with you. They will want to hear from you as much as possible.  

You shouldn’t have to send them ten messages before they’ll answer you once. You shouldn’t have to stare at your phone for days, waiting for them to acknowledge your existence. You shouldn’t have to check their social media and wonder why they can post online but can’t answer you one-on-one. You shouldn’t have to feel like you’re the only one putting effort into coming up with topics, into keeping the conversation flowing. Relationships are about two people coming together. Two people trying. Two people caring. You can’t be the only one trying.

Chasing someone might be fun in the beginning, but if they still aren’t letting you catch them after a certain amount of time has past, you should let them go. You shouldn’t have to teach this person how to give you the bare minimum. If they won’t even answer your texts, they aren’t worth your time.

Don’t chase someone who won’t even answer your texts because you deserve more than the bare minimum – and answering your texts is just the start. That’s the smallest thing you should be expecting. If someone doesn’t want to answer you, then let them get away. Let them lose you.