Jonathan Borba

How To Feel At Peace When Your Life Feels Chaotic

There are moments in life where you’ll feel as if you can’t find peace.

You feel anxious, as if nothing is working. You wonder if the thing you’re working for is worth it. You sometimes don’t realize you’re forcing actions as you do things that are unconsciously out of alignment. And in those times, feeling at peace is so far out of your mind.

When you catch yourself in those moments, know that you have access to the feeling of peacefulness.

Here are some things you can do to feel at peace when your life feels chaotic.

You need to address what’s going on in your life.

This is easier said than done. But many of us tend to avoid the problems we face. We go to jobs that we hate, hoping that they will get better “at some point.” We stay in relationships we aren’t sure of because it feels comfortable. But deep down, we know that something needs to be changed. Look at the problem and dig deep. There’s peace in the act of solving problems. 

You need to surrender to the unknown.

It’s one of the most challenging things humans experience. From an evolutionary perspective, it makes sense to be fearful. Fear helped us avoid death traps, like eating some poisonous berries. But in today’s age, being fearful doesn’t have the exact protective mechanism. On the contrary, it keeps us stuck from the other side, where all our hopes and dreams can come true. The ironic thing is that when you surrender to the unknown, that’s when the feeling of peace comes to you.

You need to let go of certain expectations.

Most of our disappointments come from the ridiculously high expectations we experience in life. That is, we believe that only certain things will make us happy. We think that having that job or traveling to the place you saw on social media is what will make you happy. We don’t realize that the expectation of that event is what makes us happy and excited at the moment. Letting go of certain expectations helps you accept realities for what they are. There’s no right or wrong, good or bad, just what is. When you finally realize that, a wave of peace will trickle down to you.

You need to understand that your reality is a reflection of your headspace.

When life feels chaotic, slow down and look at what’s going inside your head. If you aren’t at peace, look for the smallest ways to shift that feeling. It doesn’t have to be grand. Maybe it’s going for a walk, reading a book, or taking a bubble bath. And then reassess how you feel later. Once you understand that our thoughts affect our reality, the peacefulness you crave naturally presents itself.

You need to zoom out of your life.

Most people live in their heads, worrying about what everyone else thinks of them. Every once in a while, stop and zoom out. Stare at the window, ground yourself to the present, and pay attention to your surroundings. Once you pay attention, you see people walking by, you hear the conversations of the people around you, and at that moment, you realize that you’re okay and you got everything you need in your life.