If He Won’t Invest In You, Invest In Yourself

Unfortunately, there are some people that you will care for who simply cannot care for you in the same way.

It’s devastating, not only because you haven’t gotten the reciprocated love, devotion, investment, and affection that you want, but also because you lose yourself in that relationship.

You settle in this bare minimum love, despite it not fulfilling your needs. Despite it not bringing you peace. Despite it not filling you with white-hot passion. You invest in this love, believing that it will get better. Believing that he will change and show up for you the way you want him to.

If he wanted to, he would.

You shouldn’t have to put effort into someone who won’t put the same amount of effort into you. So if he won’t invest in you, invest in yourself.

Take up a new hobby. Read those books that have been collecting dust on your bookshelf. Take that trip. Take care of your mental health. Set goals and achieve them. Declutter. Get organized. Speak words of affirmation to yourself in the mirror. Spend time with friends and family–anyone who respects and loves you the way you deserve. Meditate. Move your body. Start journaling and ask yourself, What does love look like to me? What do I want in a partner? How can I love myself more?

Invest in yourself, your goals, your dreams, your home, your friendships, your mental and physical health, your hobbies, your passions. Invest in you, not someone who can’t or won’t invest in you the same way.