If Love Feels Like ‘Pressure’ Then You’re Not Ready For It

So many relationships end because one person felt ‘pressured’ by the other to do something, whether it was to take their commitment further or have an important conversation about their future or simply communicate their true feelings and desires. It seems like the more someone shows more interest or love to the other person, that person starts taking a step back.

If love feels like pressure to you then you’re not ready for it. If you’re not ready to accept someone else in your life knowing that this person will have their own needs and deserves your attention, time, respect and loyalty, then you’re not ready for it. Then don’t even try to be with someone who wants something real. Don’t approach people who are looking for a genuine connection, and don’t try to convince someone that you’re ready if you’re not willing to meet their basic needs.

If love feels like pressure, then you don’t know what love is because every relationship involves some kind of pressure, but when you love someone, it doesn’t feel like pressure, it becomes another part of your daily routine, something that adds flavor to your day that you look forward to. Whether it’s calling them or checking up on them, whether it’s meeting this person or being there for them when they need you. Like any relationship you cherish, you’ll have to do things that you don’t always feel like doing at times and you’ll go out of your way sometimes but it’s all done with love.

If being there for someone or showing up for them feels like pressure, then you’re not ready for real love, and that’s okay as long as you’re honest with yourself. As long as you don’t lie to someone and make them feel like you are ready and you want them, only to walk away when things get a little rocky or when the honeymoon phase is over. It’s okay if you’re not ready as long as you’re honest about it and as long as you make that clear early on so that it becomes the other person’s decision whether to accept it or not.

But don’t make someone feel like their presence in your life is pressuring you to do things you don’t want to do and don’t make someone feel like the more they care about you, the less you’ll appreciate them. Don’t make someone feel like a burden or make them feel that the moment they speak up about something, you’ll walk away. If you’re not ready for the healthy kind of pressure that relationships bring, then don’t be in one, because eventually, the other person will stop putting pressure on you but they will stop wanting your love and they will stop wanting you.

If you care about someone and you don’t want to lose them, accept that there will be some kind of pressure but it’s not always a bad thing. Sometimes it’s the most beautiful kind of pressure because you actually have someone who cares about the little things and is willing to meet your needs and wants to make you happy. This feeling is priceless and you will only understand its value when you no longer have it.