1. Learn to respond instead of reacting.
This is something I am currently working through. It is difficult to train my brain to take a moment and take inventory of my feelings before responding to someone or something that may strike a nerve. Even though it is one of the most difficult things to do, it will be worth it in the end.
2. Go to therapy.
If you can’t afford therapy, follow therapists online. Do literally anything in terms of helping you start to figure out some of the things you feel. You will never regret it, even when it is lonely, disappointing, and scary.
3. Go through your stuff.
I’ve never been a minimalist and had a really hard time understanding how anyone could be. I feel like the older I get, the more I am learning to let go of things that do not make me feel good. Clutter and mess stresses me out. It costs me my peace and that is not something I want to keep in my sacred space.
4. Listen to your body, even if it seems like the littlest thing you could listen to.
We learn to not trust ourselves through questioning when our body is hungry, thirsty, tired, etc. and we shame ourselves by ignoring it and pretending that some outside resource knows better than we do about our bodies.
5. Find a hobby that you genuinely like to do.
Don’t do it because you want to show people. Don’t do it because you need some extra money and think you could sell it. Do it because YOU enjoy it. This is so hard for people who find their worth in what they can show other people and the praise they get from that (Hi, I’m people). Do it for you. It can be literally anything you choose and do it even if you’re bad at it. It doesn’t matter if it’s for you.
6. Create or find a playlist that is uplifting.
I suck at creating playlists. I get overwhelmed about choosing the right songs even if the playlist is just for me. I try to find playlists that make me feel good, especially when I’m feeling bad.
7. Develop a morning routine.
I recently found a morning routine that feels good for me to do. I went through a lot of trial and error with what I liked, and I also struggled to find something that would put me in a better mood in the mornings. I am not a morning person. I hate speaking to anyone for a couple hours after I wake up. Also, I advise anyone looking for a new routine to NOT look at other peoples’ routines. We can get sucked into doing what other people do and think it will work for us and then get discouraged if their routine doesn’t work for us. Really think about what you want to do in the morning!
8. Becoming more self-aware, but not TOO self-aware.
It’s nice to be self-aware and to know when you are being aware of yourself or obsessed with it. The difference is that when you become obsessed with it, you focus so much on the things you must do instead of actually doing the work. I’ve been in this cycle before and it doesn’t feel as good as it feels to accomplish something or make a breakthrough in the things that have been holding you back.