If You Have An INFJ In Your Life, Here Are 10 Things You Need To Know

The INFJ is one of the 16 different personalities on the Myer-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), and, like all MBTI personalities, has its fair share of common traits. The INFJ’s four main personality traits are Introversion, Intuition, Feeling, and Judging. Here are 10 things to know about this personality type:

1. They’re the rarest MBTI type.

INFJs are the rarest personality type, making up about 2% of the population. Because of the rarity of this type, INFJs can often feel lonely, not meeting many people who share their personality, and therefore sometimes feel isolated from the rest of the world. At the same time, there’s a wonderful feeling of knowing why you behave the way you do and realizing that there are others out there like you.

2. They are individualistic.

While INFJs can be prone to loneliness due to their rarity, they also crave individuality. INFJs greatly value their independence and the things that make them unique. They love exploring new hobbies and getting to learn who they are as people, a never-ending yet exciting life journey.

3. They are detail-oriented.

While INFJs are open to trying new things, they enjoy having tried-and-true systems in place. INFJs feel more relaxed and at home when they have a process and daily routine. This also extends to their morals; once they settle on their beliefs and values, it would be extremely difficult, if not impossible, to change their minds.

4. They can extrovert well.

While INFJs are introverts at heart, they can extrovert whenever needed. They are great at reading people, understanding their emotions and what topics interest them. In fact, INFJs can be so good at playing extrovert that others mistake them for extroverts. Don’t be mistaken for an INFJ’s ability to extrovert, however; when they become exhausted from being around people for too long, they will retreat into themselves like all introverts need to.

5. They value authenticity.

INFJs deeply value authenticity, both in themselves and others. Their conversations need to have meaning and tell them about the people they’re interacting with. INFJs hate small talk and superficiality, and they have a bullshit detector for dishonesty and lack of integrity. They have little to no patience for artificial conversations or people. 

6. They have active imaginations

With their high Introverted Intuition function, INFJs are able to understand situations and process information in both conscious and subconscious ways. INFJs spend a lot of time in their heads, not only understanding the world around them, but also imagining worlds beyond what they can see. This also makes them extremely creative, and INFJs tend to find themselves attracted to creative fields like writing and drawing.

7. They struggle with external stimuli.

Many introverts struggle with overestimation from the outside world, and INFJs are no exception. With their affinity toward introversion and intuition, INFJs can spend so much time in their heads that they forget the external world and details surrounding them. This can make them appear aloof on the outside, but really, they’re just distracted.

8. They are deeply empathetic.

INFJs feel other people’s emotions very deeply. Their auxiliary function, Extraverted Feeling, allows them to feel other people’s emotions very well, so well that they can actually feel what other people are feeling at that given moment. This can quickly become overwhelming, and INFJs need to step back and retreat into themselves to figure out their own emotions vs. someone else’s and give themselves a break from feeling so much. This also makes INFJs more inclined to work in fields and volunteer to help other people.

9. They are very private.

As introverts, INFJs tend to keep to themselves a lot. They can be very approachable and enjoy talking to people, but when it comes to the more intimate parts of their personalities, they tend to keep it hidden. INFJs are extremely selective of the people they truly allow to see the INFJ for who they are. But when they are your friend, they will often be your friend for life.

10. They believe in soulmates.

INFJs crave intimate relationships, whether platonic or romantic (or both). They have their casual friendships, but they always search for one or two people that they want in their lives forever. Once they’ve found their people, INFJs will give them their whole hearts without regrets and feel a deep love for these people that they can hardly express in words. They simply know that they have found their soulmates, whatever that may look like.

INFJs are rare, often misunderstood, and can seem a bit weird with their head seemingly in the clouds and their demeanor guarded. INFJs are also extremely empathetic, creative, and altruistic. Like every type, they are unique and beautiful in their own way and make up one of the many portions of the world and the people.