If You Want To Heal, You Need To Actually Admit You’re Hurting

Maybe someone cracked open your heart and left you bleeding. Maybe you asked for love from someone who wasn’t willing to give it to you. Maybe you were taken advantage of and now you look at intimacy as something to fear, a burden to bear. Maybe you were treated like a doormat just asking to be walked all over.

But that’s the thing, isn’t it? You didn’t ask for it. And you didn’t ask to carry this kind of burden.

Sometimes, things happen and we just let it. We think, that hurt me but I’ll get over it eventually. 

If this is your way of thinking, I want you to understand that you might never actually heal from your hurt unless you first look at it. You can’t keep holding on to it and sheltering it as tightly as you do. 

You will never fully heal from your hurt unless you do something about it. 

I want you to understand how crucial it is to stand up for yourself and your healing. To forgive yourself for letting the hurt swell and manifest into something worse. To care for yourself enough to face it all.

You can’t keep avoiding the discomfort just because you’ve convinced yourself that it doesn’t hurt. 

Eventually, all that you’ve buried will uncover itself. All that you keep close — the fear, the hurt, the exhaustion, the anger — will want to be free. You have to let it go. You have to let it step into the light. 

You can’t keep pushing down something with hopes that if you ignore it, it will just go away.

When you can’t handle everything anymore, your body will tell you. It will feel a lot like growing pains. You have to face the discomfort and the hurt and take care of it with all the tenderness you can muster. You have to let go of all that you’re holding on to. This is the only way you’re going to truly heal: allow yourself to actually hurt.