It’s much better to cut ties with someone who gives the bare minimum than to give them chance after chance that they keep blowing. If they were worried about losing you, they wouldn’t risk watching you walk away. They wouldn’t be putting so little effort into keeping you satisfied. Remember, you’re not asking for too much. You’re not being greedy or unreasonable. All you’re asking for is a little respect and a whole lot of love — and those are the basics that any partner should bring to the table.
It’s better to spend your weekends alone than to sit around waiting for someone to call, hoping that they text you back within a reasonable amount of time and that they don’t cancel whatever tentative plans you set up earlier in the week. Your relationship shouldn’t constantly feel like you’re in limbo, unsure whether you’re going to get to see them soon or whether they’ll stay MIA.
It’s better to put effort into loving yourself and making yourself happy than to rely on someone unreliable to treat you right. If they’re giving you the bare minimum early on, it will probably grow worse down the line. Not better. They’re probably going to put in even less effort as time goes on, so you have to ask yourself whether you’re willing to accept treatment like this for the long-haul.
It’s better to stay single and keep your options open than to commit to a person who has proven they aren’t going to meet your standards. Remember, there are plenty of people out there who would love to spoil you rotten, who would do anything to make you happy, even if it means inconveniencing themselves or putting in extra work. You don’t want to end up with someone who treats your love like a burden. Who acts like you’re asking for way too much when you’re barely asking for anything at all.
It’s better to delete their number from your phone and accept that they aren’t enough for you than to text first every time and wait forever for a response. You shouldn’t be wondering whether your message went through, wondering what they’re doing that is so much more important than answering you. You shouldn’t be carrying every conversation either, feeling like they’re going to stop responding if you aren’t entertaining or engaging enough. Relationships are about two people. You shouldn’t be doing the work for both.
It’s better to stay single than to date someone who does the bare minimum because you don’t want to stay up late at night, wondering why they aren’t interested in doing more. You don’t want to start wondering whether you’re the problem, whether you’re not worth fighting for, whether you aren’t lovable enough to bring out their best side. This has nothing to do with you, and you shouldn’t remain in a relationship with someone who makes you feel like a burden, like a chore, like a backup plan. You deserve a relationship where you’re valued and appreciated — and yes, spoiled to the core.