Itโ€™s Better To Stay Single Than Date Someone Who Does The Bare Minimum
Allegra Messina

It’s Better To Stay Single Than To Date Someone Who Does The Bare Minimum

Itโ€™s much better to cut ties with someone who gives the bare minimum than to give them chance after chance that they keep blowing. If they were worried about losing you, they wouldnโ€™t risk watching you walk away. They wouldnโ€™t be putting so little effort into keeping you satisfied. Remember, youโ€™re not asking for too much. Youโ€™re not being greedy or unreasonable. All youโ€™re asking for is a little respect and a whole lot of love โ€” and those are the basics that any partner should bring to the table.

Itโ€™s better to spend your weekends alone than to sit around waiting for someone to call, hoping that they text you back within a reasonable amount of time and that they donโ€™t cancel whatever tentative plans you set up earlier in the week. Your relationship shouldnโ€™t constantly feel like youโ€™re in limbo, unsure whether youโ€™re going to get to see them soon or whether theyโ€™ll stay MIA.

Itโ€™s better to put effort into loving yourself and making yourself happy than to rely on someone unreliable to treat you right. If theyโ€™re giving you the bare minimum early on, it will probably grow worse down the line. Not better. Theyโ€™re probably going to put in even less effort as time goes on, so you have to ask yourself whether youโ€™re willing to accept treatment like this for the long-haul.

Itโ€™s better to stay single and keep your options open than to commit to a person who has proven they arenโ€™t going to meet your standards. Remember, there are plenty of people out there who would love to spoil you rotten, who would do anything to make you happy, even if it means inconveniencing themselves or putting in extra work. You donโ€™t want to end up with someone who treats your love like a burden. Who acts like youโ€™re asking for way too much when youโ€™re barely asking for anything at all.

Itโ€™s better to delete their number from your phone and accept that they arenโ€™t enough for you than to text first every time and wait forever for a response. You shouldnโ€™t be wondering whether your message went through, wondering what theyโ€™re doing that is so much more important than answering you. You shouldnโ€™t be carrying every conversation either, feeling like theyโ€™re going to stop responding if you arenโ€™t entertaining or engaging enough. Relationships are about two people. You shouldnโ€™t be doing the work for both.

Itโ€™s better to stay single than to date someone who does the bare minimum because you donโ€™t want to stay up late at night, wondering why they arenโ€™t interested in doing more. You donโ€™t want to start wondering whether youโ€™re the problem, whether youโ€™re not worth fighting for, whether you arenโ€™t lovable enough to bring out their best side. This has nothing to do with you, and you shouldnโ€™t remain in a relationship with someone who makes you feel like a burden, like a chore, like a backup plan. You deserve a relationship where youโ€™re valued and appreciated โ€” and yes, spoiled to the core.