Rejection is one of the worst feelings in the world, and it could leave even the best of us feeling like we’re not good enough. That everything we’ve worked on doesn’t really matter if we don’t get what we want. It leaves even the best of us feeling like maybe we don’t deserve what we want or we got ahead of ourselves in some areas, but the truth is, rejection doesn’t always have to be about you. Sometimes you think something or someone is perfect for you and it never occurs to you that you could be wrong about it. It’s time to stop making rejection mean you’re not good enough and make it mean that you just need to look in another direction. That possibly you’re looking for your calling or for love in all the wrong places.
It’s time to stop making someone’s inability to see your worth mean that something is wrong with you. Maybe on some level, this person can’t meet you where you are, and maybe on some level that person doesn’t have whatever it takes to meet your standards. It’s time to stop making someone’s choice not to hire you or promote you mean that you’re not smart enough because it all comes down to someone else’s opinion based on their own subjective experience. It’s time to stop giving people the power to control how you see yourself or diminish you whenever they can.
One thing I know for sure, if you take every rejection personally, you will attract even more rejection, and that will be your story. If you don’t stop and look at the bigger picture or the reason behind that so-called rejection, you will never understand that sometimes this ‘rejection’ is what will lead you to a better place or a better job or a better person. Rejection doesn’t have to be your enemy; it can be your friend if you truly understand what it’s trying to tell you.
But the problem is that you sometimes take rejection as a challenge and you make it your mission to prove that you deserve whatever you got rejected for. You try so hard to win the people who don’t give you the time of day just to prove that you’re worthy of their time and their love. You work even harder and you keep doing whatever it takes to get that job or that promotion, even if it means exhausting your body and your mind just to prove that you are better than your colleagues, but this incessant need to prove that you’re worthy of people and things comes from a deep-rooted fear that you’re not chosen, and that is why rejection stings. It brings up the old wound that you are not chosen for the things you want.
It’s time to stop making rejection mean that you’re not chosen or that you lost something special, because as long as you don’t lose yourself trying to find the reason why and as long as you keep the faith that this is all part of a bigger plan, you will never again make rejection mean that you’re not good enough. You will learn how to be thankful for every rejection because it protected you from something that would not have worked out for you and it will lead you to a place or a person that will make you feel totally accepted without having to try so hard.