It’s okay if you have a bad day.
There will be days when you feel as though you’re going to be okay, days when it seems like you can laugh without hurting or crying or wanting to curl up in the fetal position and rock in the corner. And then, just like that, something will arise within your throat and press upon your heart, and you’ll feel the sting of the tears brim to your eyes—and you won’t feel fine anymore. It’s okay if that happens. It’s okay when that happens, too. Bad days don’t last forever—they are part of the journey. Please know that you won’t feel like this for the rest of your days but climbing to the other side of pain takes time, so give yourself grace.
Give yourself grace.
Give yourself the grace to feel whatever you need to feel. Cry as much as you need. Laugh as much as you need. Take time alone when you need it, and don’t be afraid to lean on the ones who want to support you through this time towards healing. It’s okay to take the hands of help that are outstretched your way, and doing so doesn’t make you any less of a person. It doesn’t make you weak or small or pathetic. It means that you have the foresight and understanding that it’s hard to go through this life alone, and therefore it’s wise to lean on the ones who love you who want to help.
There is a love that is meant for you.
Just because this love didn’t work out doesn’t mean that you are not meant for lasting, beautiful, transcendent love. It doesn’t mean that you’re unlovable. It doesn’t mean that you don’t deserve to be loved the way you need—and it doesn’t mean that there isn’t someone out there who will be able to give you the love that you want and receive all the love that you have to offer.
You are capable of extraordinary things.
Your heart has smashed to a million pieces, and yet, it’s still beating. Your lungs are still breathing. You are still standing here, however weak you may feel, after enduring the heartbreak you experienced. That is extraordinary. You are extraordinary. You are capable of incredible things, even when it seems like that’s the furthest thing from the truth. Yes, even you.