30 Moms Talk About What They Actually Want For Mother’s Day
1. Chores Done and Peace
Just a day where I get home from work, they’ve done their chores and they aren’t bickering over nothing.
It’s not a lot, really…
BlueMaboo
2. Sleep
Iād really just be excited to get uninterrupted sleep for a night.
AbJ1622
3. Time Away and a Card
Spent last night with a migraine, a fussy 3 month old, a toddler who kept coming into my bed, dogs that kept whining to get out to bark at a fucking squirrel, and a cat that kept trying to sleep on my pillow. All I wanted was some sleep so I can help get a break from the jackhammer in my head.
What did my husband do?
He slept or pretended to sleep. Oh, until 4:30. Then his phone alarm went off every 5 minutes for half an hour.
Ya, all I want for Mother’s Day is a day away from everyone. And a card. My husband doesn’t believe in Mother’s Day so I get nothing every year.
misyo
4. No Mother-In-Law Sightings
A clean house, a long nap, and to not have to see my mother-in-law this year. It always turns into her day but hi, I’m a mom too.
Gingerpants1517
5. No Gardening
I remember visiting my mom for Mother’s day with my wife and kids one year. My brother and his wife and kids came by too. As we pull up, Mom is arranging potted flowers to plant in the garden. My wife, in the car as we pull up, sees this and says, “Oh hell no. If I’m going to do any gardening on Mother’s Day, it’s going to be in my own damn garden!”
The funny part was, my brother’s wife said exactly the same thing.
jimmyjazz2000
6. Someone Please Clean the House
Half this comment section; a clean house.
SpoonSArmy
7. To Not Plan the Day
I want to go to the park with my husband and son. Maybe go out for lunch somewhere together. And I don’t want to be the one to have to initiate things we do together as a family.
I’m editing to add this because I have gotten comments that make a good point: It’s a good idea to be appreciative of any attempts by your partner when s/he makes an attempt to plan things. The best way to encourage this behavior to reward any little attempt they make rather than complain when they do try.
GarnettGreen
8. My Own Time
After several years of telling my husband I didnāt care what we did as long as I didnāt have to clean the house in advance, plan it, or help clean upāand that never happeningālast year I booked a spa appointment from breakfast to right before lunch. Texted my husband and said I was busy from 8am-11am and āwhere should I meet you and the kids for lunch?ā It was perfect and Iām repeating this year.
BeBubbly
9. Someone Else Plan the Day
This needs to get more attention! I donāt want to plan Motherās Day. Thatās literally all. Iāll take damn near anything so long as I have nothing to do with making it happen!!!
MamaMaIxner87
10. Sip Champagne While Others Do the Work
Champagne.
Someone to come deep clean my house.
Someone to cook me dinner while I sit on the couch with a drink.
tastinginstereo
11. A Simple Day Off
A day off. But a proper day off, where they actually take care of everything I do, so it’s not just do nothing on mothers day do twice as much to catch up the day after
eta: my husband does his share as a father, but I’m a stay at home mom, so, yeah lol
kayno-way
12. A Few Simple Things
I want a house that stays clean for more than an hour, a meal I didn’t make that I don’t have to clean after, and a lovely day with my children and husband without having to worry about spending money. And chocolate, and a nap I don’t have to set an alarm for.
mydearmrsrobinson
13. What Would You Do For a Klondike Bar?
To not have to hide in the bathroom to eat ice cream or sweets by myself. My 3 year old can hear the wrapper on a Klondike bar from a mile away.
mrschukchuk
14. Charcuterie Board and Wine For One
Gift voucher for a massage, a clean house and the lawns mowed. And a charcuterie board and a bottle of paired white wine all to myself.
twilexis
15. A Clean House and Uninterrupted Bedroom Fun
A clean house, solid uninterrupted dick down from my husband and dinner I don’t have to cook or clean up. Not in any particular order.
mommy_iy
16. Me Time
Not to be needed for just a day. I took a trip by myself a couple of years ago and the absolute best part was not being needed by anyone.
I could just relax without worrying about when my relaxation would be interrupted by my husband and kid coming home and needing help with stuff or attention.
Donāt get me wrong, I love spending time with them and shower them with attention and cuddles, but I really miss having uninterrupted me time without having to worry about getting texts asking me where something is or if we have milk or whatever or watching the clock wondering how much time I have left.
ZoraksGirlfriend
17. She Needs To Step Down
I want my mother in law to step down and realize the day is no longer all about her and only her. Sheās got two daughter in laws who are raising her grandchildren (our steps kids) week in, week out and we want some recognition!!!! And we donāt want to eat pasta for lunch at a restaurant we hate.
velcrodots
18. A Night Away
One night in a hotel to sleep….and to come home to a clean house that wasnāt cleaned by me.
__mamabear
19. My Dream List
This is my dream, and I tell my husband often.
I want a hotel room to myself.
I want to have all of the good snacks and room service or takeout from my favourite place.
I want to watch what I want on Netflix or even just play on my phone without interruption.
I want late checkout, so I can wake up in the morning and take my time having a shower, doing my hair and makeup.
I want to go to brunch by myself and drink coffee while itās hot.
I want to get in the car to drive home without having to buckle 3 kids into car seats, and happily drive home to a clean house.
I love my husband, and I love my kids. They are amazing and I am very lucky, but I havenāt had a second of privacy in almost 6 years. This could also answer the āWhat I fantasize about before sleepā question.
houghtie
20. Do Nothing And Have Beer For Lunch
A day where I donāt have to do anything. No cleaning, washing, cooking. Four year old wants to go to the park? Not my problem. Six month old did a poo? Too bad. A day where I am not accountable for anything/anyone. And have beers at lunch. And cake for dinner.
magdejup
21. Be a Basic Bitch
I wanna go to Target alone and get Starbucks and live my best basic bitch life for two hours.
Also, I wanna bang my hot husband. He’s the reason I’m a mama.
whtgrlxtrm13
22. Sleep In
To wake up naturally, just once. Iād love it if I could just sleep and not have to get up to my daughter yelling out, or my alarm, or my fiancĆ© coming in to ask me something when heās offered to get up early with our kid. Just one day to wake up properly when my body decides its time to wake.
-kimbecile-
23. Photos That Aren’t Selfies
I want a picture of my son and I. Iām a single mom, so all of our pictures are selfies. I would love for someone to offer to take our picture.
oliversmamabear
24. Single Moms Eat Free
Single mom: it would be cool if all the restaurants and entertainment companies that do a Mother’s Day special, the “moms eat free!” type stuff, didn’t have the caveat of (free with purchase of another adult entrĆ©e and/or ticket.)
I was so excited about taking my son to Medieval Times last year because I saw an ad for their Mother’s Day “Moms get in free” special. Turns out it meant Moms Whose Kids Have Involved Fathers Get In Free.
AdolfaKnittler
25. Locked in the Room
Let me lock myself in the bedroom for an entire day and leave me alone. One day. Donāt clean. Donāt do laundry. Donāt do anything. Just leave me alone. I love you all but you always need something. No, I donāt know where you put your favorite socks. Please just go look.
BustyMcFister
26. A Connection and Love
To feel loved for real by my partner. We are so disconnected its feels empty. And I’m done putting all the effort in for affection. I’m about an inch away from giving up and walking. There is much more that complicates these problems… but too many words to type.
DarkZombie89
27. A Mental Break
For someone to take over the mental load. My son has ADHD and rides the spectrum. My mother has Alzheimer’s. For 1 day, I would love to leave the house knowing that there was someone there to keep them both safe, without me having to call several times a day to access the situation.
UrsulaSeaWitch
28. No Arguments
I’d like the members of my household to actually listen to me the first time I ask them to do something. And to help out with the obvious things without me having to tell them to do it, like the laundry that’s been sitting there you’ve stepped over 3 times do I really need to say put it away? And someone to come mop all my floors because I hate mopping. And no arguments for one day. That’d be nice.
amc8151
29. My Babies
My babies.
I want to wake up too early and rock my daughter back to sleep for a few hours more rest, then wake up to my son giving me his wishful breakfast menu. Iāll make a compromised version and heāll joyfully & gratefully acknowledge the changes, because thatās just him. Theyāll eat and dance and fight, be crazy messy then have bath time before we go to the park or store or even just stay home together. I want to make them lunch and dinner from scratch and talk about the silliest of things and answer every random question. Weāll go through the bedtime routine of teeth, potty, books and snuggles.. go out with our special ānight nightā song I made up four years ago.
I am currently engaged in custody proceedings, but their father and extended family are not compliant with communication orders so Iāve not seen, heard or spoken to them in 12 days. There have been longer gaps than this. Itās been so lonely, the days are so empty. The fear for their safety and well being is constant. To never know anything regarding them, their feelings, being unable to protect them.. itās been absolute torture.
So I donāt want rest this year. I want my babies, my purpose and normalcy. Unfortunately, the process is too slow to give me what I want, so it will be yet another empty, quiet 24 hours spent daydreaming, wondering and worrying about them.
everybayink
30. A Night From the Past
My mom just told me she wants a night for all 3 of her children to sleep over and play board games. Weāre all older now and moved out so she misses when we were all together.
QueefQueen5