30 Moms Talk About What They Actually Want For Mother’s Day

1. Chores Done and Peace

Just a day where I get home from work, they’ve done their chores and they aren’t bickering over nothing.

It’s not a lot, really…


2. Sleep

I’d really just be excited to get uninterrupted sleep for a night.


3. Time Away and a Card

Spent last night with a migraine, a fussy 3 month old, a toddler who kept coming into my bed, dogs that kept whining to get out to bark at a fucking squirrel, and a cat that kept trying to sleep on my pillow. All I wanted was some sleep so I can help get a break from the jackhammer in my head.

What did my husband do?

He slept or pretended to sleep. Oh, until 4:30. Then his phone alarm went off every 5 minutes for half an hour.

Ya, all I want for Mother’s Day is a day away from everyone. And a card. My husband doesn’t believe in Mother’s Day so I get nothing every year.


4. No Mother-In-Law Sightings

A clean house, a long nap, and to not have to see my mother-in-law this year. It always turns into her day but hi, I’m a mom too.


5. No Gardening

I remember visiting my mom for Mother’s day with my wife and kids one year. My brother and his wife and kids came by too. As we pull up, Mom is arranging potted flowers to plant in the garden. My wife, in the car as we pull up, sees this and says, “Oh hell no. If I’m going to do any gardening on Mother’s Day, it’s going to be in my own damn garden!”

The funny part was, my brother’s wife said exactly the same thing.


6. Someone Please Clean the House

Half this comment section; a clean house.


7. To Not Plan the Day

I want to go to the park with my husband and son. Maybe go out for lunch somewhere together. And I don’t want to be the one to have to initiate things we do together as a family.

I’m editing to add this because I have gotten comments that make a good point: It’s a good idea to be appreciative of any attempts by your partner when s/he makes an attempt to plan things. The best way to encourage this behavior to reward any little attempt they make rather than complain when they do try.


8. My Own Time

After several years of telling my husband I didn’t care what we did as long as I didn’t have to clean the house in advance, plan it, or help clean up—and that never happening—last year I booked a spa appointment from breakfast to right before lunch. Texted my husband and said I was busy from 8am-11am and “where should I meet you and the kids for lunch?” It was perfect and I’m repeating this year.


9. Someone Else Plan the Day

This needs to get more attention! I don’t want to plan Mother’s Day. That’s literally all. I’ll take damn near anything so long as I have nothing to do with making it happen!!!


10. Sip Champagne While Others Do the Work


Someone to come deep clean my house.

Someone to cook me dinner while I sit on the couch with a drink.


11. A Simple Day Off

A day off. But a proper day off, where they actually take care of everything I do, so it’s not just do nothing on mothers day do twice as much to catch up the day after

eta: my husband does his share as a father, but I’m a stay at home mom, so, yeah lol


12. A Few Simple Things

I want a house that stays clean for more than an hour, a meal I didn’t make that I don’t have to clean after, and a lovely day with my children and husband without having to worry about spending money. And chocolate, and a nap I don’t have to set an alarm for.


13. What Would You Do For a Klondike Bar?

To not have to hide in the bathroom to eat ice cream or sweets by myself. My 3 year old can hear the wrapper on a Klondike bar from a mile away.


14. Charcuterie Board and Wine For One

Gift voucher for a massage, a clean house and the lawns mowed. And a charcuterie board and a bottle of paired white wine all to myself.


15. A Clean House and Uninterrupted Bedroom Fun

A clean house, solid uninterrupted dick down from my husband and dinner I don’t have to cook or clean up. Not in any particular order.


16. Me Time

Not to be needed for just a day. I took a trip by myself a couple of years ago and the absolute best part was not being needed by anyone.

I could just relax without worrying about when my relaxation would be interrupted by my husband and kid coming home and needing help with stuff or attention.

Don’t get me wrong, I love spending time with them and shower them with attention and cuddles, but I really miss having uninterrupted me time without having to worry about getting texts asking me where something is or if we have milk or whatever or watching the clock wondering how much time I have left.


17. She Needs To Step Down

I want my mother in law to step down and realize the day is no longer all about her and only her. She’s got two daughter in laws who are raising her grandchildren (our steps kids) week in, week out and we want some recognition!!!! And we don’t want to eat pasta for lunch at a restaurant we hate.


18. A Night Away

One night in a hotel to sleep….and to come home to a clean house that wasn’t cleaned by me.


19. My Dream List

This is my dream, and I tell my husband often.

I want a hotel room to myself.

I want to have all of the good snacks and room service or takeout from my favourite place.

I want to watch what I want on Netflix or even just play on my phone without interruption.

I want late checkout, so I can wake up in the morning and take my time having a shower, doing my hair and makeup.

I want to go to brunch by myself and drink coffee while it’s hot.

I want to get in the car to drive home without having to buckle 3 kids into car seats, and happily drive home to a clean house.

I love my husband, and I love my kids. They are amazing and I am very lucky, but I haven’t had a second of privacy in almost 6 years. This could also answer the “What I fantasize about before sleep” question.


20. Do Nothing And Have Beer For Lunch

A day where I don’t have to do anything. No cleaning, washing, cooking. Four year old wants to go to the park? Not my problem. Six month old did a poo? Too bad. A day where I am not accountable for anything/anyone. And have beers at lunch. And cake for dinner.


21. Be a Basic Bitch

I wanna go to Target alone and get Starbucks and live my best basic bitch life for two hours.

Also, I wanna bang my hot husband. He’s the reason I’m a mama.


22. Sleep In

To wake up naturally, just once. I’d love it if I could just sleep and not have to get up to my daughter yelling out, or my alarm, or my fiancé coming in to ask me something when he’s offered to get up early with our kid. Just one day to wake up properly when my body decides its time to wake.


23. Photos That Aren’t Selfies

I want a picture of my son and I. I’m a single mom, so all of our pictures are selfies. I would love for someone to offer to take our picture.


24. Single Moms Eat Free

Single mom: it would be cool if all the restaurants and entertainment companies that do a Mother’s Day special, the “moms eat free!” type stuff, didn’t have the caveat of (free with purchase of another adult entrée and/or ticket.)

I was so excited about taking my son to Medieval Times last year because I saw an ad for their Mother’s Day “Moms get in free” special. Turns out it meant Moms Whose Kids Have Involved Fathers Get In Free.


25. Locked in the Room

Let me lock myself in the bedroom for an entire day and leave me alone. One day. Don’t clean. Don’t do laundry. Don’t do anything. Just leave me alone. I love you all but you always need something. No, I don’t know where you put your favorite socks. Please just go look.


26. A Connection and Love

To feel loved for real by my partner. We are so disconnected its feels empty. And I’m done putting all the effort in for affection. I’m about an inch away from giving up and walking. There is much more that complicates these problems… but too many words to type.


27. A Mental Break

For someone to take over the mental load. My son has ADHD and rides the spectrum. My mother has Alzheimer’s. For 1 day, I would love to leave the house knowing that there was someone there to keep them both safe, without me having to call several times a day to access the situation.


28. No Arguments

I’d like the members of my household to actually listen to me the first time I ask them to do something. And to help out with the obvious things without me having to tell them to do it, like the laundry that’s been sitting there you’ve stepped over 3 times do I really need to say put it away? And someone to come mop all my floors because I hate mopping. And no arguments for one day. That’d be nice.


29. My Babies

My babies.

I want to wake up too early and rock my daughter back to sleep for a few hours more rest, then wake up to my son giving me his wishful breakfast menu. I’ll make a compromised version and he’ll joyfully & gratefully acknowledge the changes, because that’s just him. They’ll eat and dance and fight, be crazy messy then have bath time before we go to the park or store or even just stay home together. I want to make them lunch and dinner from scratch and talk about the silliest of things and answer every random question. We’ll go through the bedtime routine of teeth, potty, books and snuggles.. go out with our special “night night” song I made up four years ago.

I am currently engaged in custody proceedings, but their father and extended family are not compliant with communication orders so I’ve not seen, heard or spoken to them in 12 days. There have been longer gaps than this. It’s been so lonely, the days are so empty. The fear for their safety and well being is constant. To never know anything regarding them, their feelings, being unable to protect them.. it’s been absolute torture.

So I don’t want rest this year. I want my babies, my purpose and normalcy. Unfortunately, the process is too slow to give me what I want, so it will be yet another empty, quiet 24 hours spent daydreaming, wondering and worrying about them.


30. A Night From the Past

My mom just told me she wants a night for all 3 of her children to sleep over and play board games. We’re all older now and moved out so she misses when we were all together.