Karolina Grabowska

Moving Forward, I’ll Only Be Accepting Apologies In Effort And Cash

Moving forward, Iโ€™ll only be accepting apologies in effort and cash. Iโ€™ve learned that we donโ€™t value anything that comes too easy. We like to suffer a bit, to endure a little pain so that we can tell our victory story.ย 

The problem is, sometimes our victory comes at anotherโ€™s expense. We donโ€™t appreciate experiences at face value until theyโ€™re gone. This isย human nature.ย ย 

Moving forward, Iโ€™ll only be accepting apologies in cash. No one is perfect, but people are a little too comfortable mistreating me. People are a little too comfortable making the same mistake repeatedly without genuine effort to change. Please try cash, action, meeting me halfway, being open to having transformative conversations, or exiting.

We have biases that say people who are busier, scarce, or unobtainable have more value. Yes, on a technical level, they might possess sought-after expertise. However, on a primal level, theyโ€™re still human.ย ย 

Other times, theyโ€™re recharging from the madness of life and will get back to you once theyโ€™ve recoveredโ€”Iโ€™m not talking about these people. Youโ€™ll know the difference because you usually have a symbiotic relationship with them. Thereโ€™s a mutual give and take.ย 

People donโ€™t ignore the individuals and opportunities they genuinely want. Not purposely, anyway. They work harder for them.

The truth is, some people straight up donโ€™t see value in you, your service, your relationship, or your time. Other times, theyโ€™reย tooย comfortable and take you for granted. When you tell them how you feel, they apologize for their behavior thousands of times without any real behavior change, which is fineโ€ฆ

But moving forward, Iโ€™ll only be accepting apologies in effort and cash. Hereโ€™s the link to my Patreon, Cash App, and PayPal. My energy is a limited and powerful resource.

I no longer have the bandwidth or desire for surface-level relationships. I realized thatย just because someone doesnโ€™t see my worth doesnโ€™t mean that Iโ€™m unworthy.

Although I feel called to care for people, and it hurts my heart to see their pain, I can no longer sustain giving all of myself to others to my detriment.ย 

When we keep accepting mediocre treatment, we believe itโ€™s normal when itโ€™s not. When we start making excuses for others, they donโ€™t rise to meet our expectations. If this doesnโ€™t change, we begin to internalize feelings of unhappiness, self-doubt, and it causes a ripple effect.

You ask for next-to-nothing, yet you think itโ€™s too much. You tell yourself that you donโ€™t have to demand respect, but you do. Youโ€™re made to feel like youโ€™re overbearing when youโ€™re not.ย 

I will no longer be accepting appreciation alone with a โ€œjob well doneโ€ and a pat on the back. Show me appreciation by paying me more, respecting my values and treating me like a person, not a number, object, or tool.

I will no longer be accepting appreciation and apologies with โ€œIโ€™m sorryโ€ without a behavior change. Iโ€™m willing to lose others, change my environment and entire life, to honor my self-respect.

Moving forward, I allow myself more desirable treatment because Iโ€™m valuable.ย 

Moving forward, I allow myself more opportunities to negotiate the best for my life.ย 

Moving forward, I allow myself more opportunities to speak up, though I risk rejection. I can handle it.

Moving forward, Iโ€™ll only be accepting apologies in effort and cash.ย 

Thank you, thatโ€™s all.