Never Let A Man Undervalue You
Never let yourself accept the bare minimum. Never let someone talk you into feeling like you’re getting a good deal when you’re getting so much less than you deserve. It’s natural to make excuses for the people that you love because you don’t want reason to walk away. It’s easier to assume that you don’t deserve better treatment than to voice your frustrations and demand better treatment – but you can’t let others undervalue you.
Never talk yourself into believing that this is the best you’re going to get. Never believe the lie that it’s greedy to ask for more because you should be happy with whatever you get. The bare minimum is not enough for you. Being half-loved is not enough for you. Whether you accept your worth or not, you deserve to be treated like a priority. You shouldn’t be a backup plan that gets ignored and disrespected. You shouldn’t be putting in ninety-nine percent of the work while your partner comes and goes whenever they please. Your person shouldn’t be treating you well when it’s convenient and then doing a one-eighty when it suddenly become inconvenient. They should be consistent in their love for you, their treatment of you. You shouldn’t be waking up in the morning wondering which version of them you’re going to get.
Never assume that it’s normal to beg your person for attention because you shouldn’t have to teach your partner how to behave. It’s always helpful to state your expectations and opinions since they aren’t a mind reader, but they should know better than to treat you terribly. The right person will be there for you without being asked. The right person will go above and beyond, even when you tell them it’s unnecessary, because they want you to be happy. The right person will understand that they don’t have to do certain things for you but will do them anyway because they are committed to being the best partner possible.
Never assume that this is the best you’re ever going to get, that you don’t deserve more, or that your expectations are too high because that’s the narrative they want you to believe so they can continue treating you like crap. The less you think of yourself, the more the wrong person can get away with – and that is not okay. In reality, there are people out there who are willing to put effort into the relationship. People who are excited to do sweet things for you because there’s nothing they enjoy more than the look of your smile, the sound of your laugh.
Never let a partner undervalue you. Your partner should be your loudest supporter. They should be in your corner, cheering you on and reminding you that you have what it takes to accomplish anything. Your partner shouldn’t be making you doubt your worth. They shouldn’t be annoyed when you have the self-respect to ask for more. They should be happy to rise to your standards. They should know your worth and respect it.