You’re scrolling through your social media and come across your colleague getting a promotion, your high school friends are getting married, and some of your family members are starting a business while you’re at your lowest point in life.
You couldn’t help but compare yourself to them. You might hide your feelings, but you’re breaking apart inside.
As much as you want to celebrate and be happy for their successes, you’re breaking your heart and asking the Universe, “Why can I be successful like them?” You’re wondering why everyone around you seems to be winning in life while you haven’t heard anything back from employers at the jobs you applied for and your romantic relationship is about to end.
You feel lonely, unwanted, and empty.
Life is not a race, but it feels like you’re left out. It feels like you’re running, but you’re not moving forward. Everyone around you has reached the finish line while you’re still unsure of what you would do in life. Waking up every day feels like a task you need to cross off your list, but you don’t feel alive anymore. You haven’t put up a Christmas tree yet, and you’re still wondering if life is worth celebrating. You ask yourself why you do things you do in life because everything is going downhill.
When you’re losing in life while everyone else is winning, I need you to know that you are not alone in this chaos. It is okay to be at the bottom of the world. It is okay to let your tears fall. It is okay to accept that it is heartbreaking to see people around you winning while you’re losing. Honor your feelings and emotions, because you need to feel what you have to feel. It is okay if you lose this time because one day you will win—it may not be this time, but you will get overflowing grace and success when the time is right.
If you feel stuck, I need you to know that you will get out of it. It may feel like it will take you forever to get on top, but you won’t always be at the bottom.
Sometimes we have to go through battles, unexpected failures, and heartbreaks in life. You had sleepless nights and overtime work, and you did everything you could, yet you still failed. But let me remind you that it is okay to fail and start a new beginning.
You are a tough soldier; you have the strength to go through the battles of life.
Don’t sabotage yourself when things don’t go the way you expected them to be. Don’t blame yourself for failing the exam; you are not a failure. Please don’t blame yourself for a failed relationship, because it happened for a reason. Be gentle with yourself and don’t be too hard on yourself when you see people around you getting their life together while you’re still figuring out what to do.
It doesn’t matter how many times you have failed; you are not a failure. Give yourself the love you deserve no matter what life has thrown at you. Give yourself the kindness you deserve. It is okay to lose because you will not constantly be losing, and even if you lose again, you are still worthy of love and happiness. Your worth doesn’t change when you fail. You are worth more than the rubies and diamonds on earth. You are worthy of love, success, and happiness in life. When everyone else is winning, you are not losing; the Universe is preparing you for your abundant success.