Breadcrumbing is when someone gives you crumbs of affection to keep you interested in them – but they never go above and beyond to make you feel special. They never take you on a real date and ask you to be their partner. They simply make it clear that they’re interested and hint at the fact that something might happen in the future in order to keep you on the backburner. Here are some unfortunate signs that your crush is breadcrumbing you:
They comment and like your Instagram pic/stories – while ignoring your texts.
You’ve been waiting for them to respond to a text, but they have been radio silent. However, whenever you post a cute picture on social media, they’re one of the first people to react with fire emojis and heart eyes. They’re reminding you that they are attracted to you, and that they have some sort of feelings for you, but they are acting on those feelings in the most low-key way possible. They’re only giving you crumb of affection – but they’re hoping that their bare minimum will be enough to keep you interested.
They talk about setting plans with you, but they never actually follow through.
Whenever you talk to them, they claim that they miss you and can’t wait to see you again. They might even hint that they want to take you out at some unspecified date in the future. But that’s the problem. They never set an actual date. They’re dangling the idea of a date over your head without ever following through and taking you on one. They’re reminding you that they like you, but they aren’t taking that extra step and actually doing anything about it.
They pop back into your life just as you’re starting to forget about them.
Their timing is incredible. They will flirt with you, drop off the face of the planet for a few weeks, and then return and pick up right where they left off. Right as you’re starting to get over them and move on, they will give you more reasons to cling onto the idea that you might become a couple someday in the future. Their sudden flirting after going MIA for so long is beyond confusing, because you aren’t sure whether they were genuinely busy and weren’t able to make time for you or whether they are simply treating you like a backup plan that they can flirt with whenever they choose.
They send you photos (and sexts) without engaging in much actual conversation.
They rarely have long, in-depth conversations with you. You have no idea what’s going on in their life and they never ask about yours. You have the same basic conversations whenever you talk, which mostly consists of some witty jokes and compliments. They might make you blush and give you butterflies, but they don’t teach you anything about each other. Even though you have fun flirting, you never take the next step and get to know each other on a deeper level. Your conversations are too short and sweet for that to happen.