Sometimes Your Life Needs To Fall Apart For You To Receive Better

Your life isn’t meant to be held together by moments of just getting by. You shouldn’t have to stitch together pieces of barely making it before you get a glimpse of happiness. Your life is about living. And sometimes, it needs to fall apart in order to receive better.

Life runs on subconscious patterns and cycles. You’ll keep creating the same circumstance until you look at how you, not other people, not how the world needs to change. Creating a different life is not about diminishing the core of who you are but who you aren’t. It’s about challenging beliefs that prevent you from sleeping peacefully at night. The beliefs that feed your insecurities and lies you tell yourself about not being good enough. Creating a different life is about stepping into the best version of yourself. Not some far-off, unrecognizable person, but the greatest version of who you are right now.

You’re agonizing over people you need to let go of. Some bonds were supposed to free us, but instead, we’ve allowed them to hold us in bondage. There are people in your life that are holding you back. They’re never going to encourage you to create healthier habits. They will never do anything different than what they’ve always done. They are not going to change. 

You’re trying so desperately to hold on to pieces of life that are no longer working for you. Instead, your life needs to fall apart. Life falls apart beautifully, messily, and with no method to its madness. It brings to the surface just how unhappy you are. It cascades down. It plummets and wrenches your gut to the core.

Life announces the lies you’ve been telling yourself. You can no longer bear to live inauthentically. When your life falls apart, let it fall all the way through. Do not try to build back the places and people that no longer fit. Where they fall is exactly where they need to be. It’s time to let go of the dysfunction. It’s time to let go of the fear that everything could go wrong. It’s time to let go. It’s time to focus on everything you want, everything that’s going right. It’s time to heal and step into a better future. 

You heal by allowing yourself to feel. You write. You write about the rush of emotions that come to you when someone says a specific word or acts in a certain way. You write about what’s happening in your body, the pounding in your chest, the tension in your back. You ask yourself, “Why do I feel this way? What is this saying to me?” You write everything you don’t want to hear. You write all the truths you won’t admit to yourself, over and over again until your words bleed through the page. Until you stop fantasizing about your past and start living in reality. It’s time to see people for who they really are. It’s time to let go.

You won’t let go by forcing yourself to. You won’t let go by willing it. You start to let go when you accept reality. That’s it. Each day remind yourself of what life is, not what you wish it would be. 

Then you handle yourself oh so gently. You remind yourself that this feeling of emptiness won’t last forever. And if your mind will not allow you to believe it, tell yourself you only have to make it through this one day. This one moment in time. 

You are meant for the best life possible, not necessarily a life that’s easy, but a life with something worth suffering a little for. Sometimes the only way you know what’s truly important to you is to lose it. Falling apart isn’t a loss. It’s growth. There is healing on the other side. Sometimes your life needs to fall apart for you to receive better.