Stop Ignoring These 6 Concrete Signs That You’re Unhappy In Your Relationship

You shouldn’t remain in a romantic relationship, just because you’re used to being there. History doesn’t matter because you’re not stuck with the decisions you made yesterday. You can change your mind at any time. Remember, being comfortable isn’t the same as being happy. It doesn’t mean you’re where you belong. You need to stop ignoring these concrete signs that you’re unhappy in your relationship:

You’re excited to hang out with friends and spend time at work – but dread coming home to your person.

You shouldn’t be miserable every time you pull into the driveway. You shouldn’t feel more relaxed and excited when you’re with literally anyone else aside from your partner. They’re supposed to feel like a safe, comfortable space, so if you feel most comfortable far, far away from them, then you should leave.

You avoid talking about your partner – or you lie through your teeth about them.

You don’t want to think about them when they aren’t in the room, so you usually turn the topic away from your relationship. Some people in your life don’t even know that you’re in a relationship. Either that, or you lie and act like everything is wonderful when others ask about your partner instead of giving them the truth about the situation. If you have to play pretend in order to make your relationship look good, then you might need to leave.

You feel emotionally closer to strangers than to your own partner.

You should feel comfortable talking to your partner about anything, and you should feel like they are being open with you too. However, if you feel like there’s a distance between you, no amount of physical closeness will be enough to make you happy. You deserve to be with someone who understands you and trusts you enough to confide in you. You shouldn’t feel like they’re a million miles away when you’re in the same room.

You have no real interest in touching them or talking to them.

Your partner is supposed to be more than your roommate. They’re supposed to be your best friend. They’re supposed to be your closest confidant. Your person should be the first person you want to run to with good or bad news, so if talking to them feels like a chore, and so does hugging and kissing them, then you don’t belong with them.

You wish they would change key components about themselves.

No relationship is perfect. There are always going to be problems, even with the happiest couples. While it’s normal to wish your partner were a little tidier or a little more vocal about their feelings, you shouldn’t be wishing their whole personality or appearance would change. If you aren’t happy with who they really are, you should be with someone else.

You have been actively planning for a future without them.

There’s nothing wrong with having a backup plan in case you end up on your own, especially when you aren’t used to relationships lasting long-term, but if you can’t possibly imagine a future with this person, then they might not be the one. They might only be temporary.