You don’t have to be afraid of your own emotions. Yes, it’s scary to develop feelings for someone who might not return them. It’s scary to open up your heart and give someone else the chance to break it. But love always comes with risks. Even the family members and friends that you love could leave you one day, but that doesn’t stop you from loving them because they are worth any potential pain you might experience in the future. They are worth the risks. And this person might be too.
You shouldn’t be embarrassed about how hard you’ve fallen for someone, how much you care. Even though some people in this world will expect you to act heartless, it’s better to lead with love. To be transparent about your feelings. To say those three little words that are on the tip of your tongue. You might end up regretting it if you keep quiet for too long, if you lose someone because you were too nervous to speak from the heart. Getting rejected will always sting, but at least you’ll know that you put yourself out there. You braved the unknown. You tried in a situation where most others would run and hide.
Stop pretending not to care about your crush because your feelings are valid. It doesn’t matter whether you’ve only spoken a few times, or whether they have no idea you exist. You can’t stop yourself from falling for someone. You shouldn’t feel ridiculous over what your heart wants. The more honest you are about your own emotions, the better you’ll becomes at recognizing them and processing them. Even though it’s scary to put your heart on the line, you don’t want to build your walls too high. You don’t want to become a stranger, even to yourself.
Stop pretending not to care because you can lie to the rest of the world – but you cannot lie to yourself. Whether you admit that you care about this person or not, your feelings are still going to be crushed if they date someone else. So you might as well be honest with yourself. Let yourself be vulnerable. The worst that can happen is that you end up staying single – but if you pretend to be heartless, to only care about yourself, then you’re going to end up staying single anyway. But in one situation, at least you tried. At least you gave love a shot.
Even if you’re ready to move on from your crush because they aren’t right for you, pretending not to care about them will backfire on you. If you want to heal from your heartbreak, you need to be honest with yourself. You need to accept your feelings for this person before you can start moving on from them. Lying to yourself might seem like a quick, easy fix – but it could come back to bite you in the future. It’s better to deal with your unspoken emotions now before they snowball into something bigger, before the feelings that you’ve bottled up start eating you alive.