Surprisingly Inspirational Lessons From ‘How To Get Away With Murder’

How To Get Away With Murder is one of the best, twistiest shows this decade (that you can watch on Netflix right now)! Here are some surprisingly inspirational lessons from the show – but they’re full of spoilers so make sure you finish the series first:

You make your own family. Most of the characters on HTGAWM don’t come from the happiest families. However, they don’t need their parents or siblings there to support them. All they need is each other. After all, they have seen the real versions of each other. They aren’t hiding any secrets (most of the time). They don’t have to wear a mask in front of each other the way they do with the rest of the world. They’ve shown each other that they’re deserving of love, even though they’ve made more than their fair of mistakes in the past.

You’ll always find your way back to the right person. If you’re meant to be with someone, you’re going to find a way to reconnect, even if it takes decades. Bonnie and Frank were in a relationship when they were younger, then ended up together again as the series ended because they loved each other in a way no one else could. Connor and Oliver broke up once, and drew up divorce papers as well, but they ended up growing old together. Even though these couples weren’t together every step of the way, they found their way back to each other. They were able to move on from their past, forgive each other, and grow together.

You can’t run away from your past. Lying to yourself is worse than lying to the rest of the world. You need to be honest with yourself about your emotions and experiences. You need to accept the bad things that have happened to you, so you can start to heal from them. Pretending that you’re perfectly fine is going to backfire. You need to talk things through with a therapist or find a group of people who have experienced the same hardships as you so you feel less alone. Remember, you’re not the only one who feels this way. You don’t have to go through this on your own.

You can change at any time, but it’s not going to be easy. You might have done bad things in the past, but that doesn’t mean you’re destined to continue screwing up over and over again. You are in control of your future. You have the power to break your bad habits and reevaluate your morals and priorities. You can change and grow into the person you’ve always wanted to become. Yes, it’s going to require a lot of effort, but it will be worth it in the end.

Don’t assume that you deserve pain. You don’t want to end up alone and miserable because you feel like you are unworthy of love. You deserve happiness. You deserve peace. You deserve to look in the mirror and like the person staring back at you. Even though you might feel guilty over mistakes you’ve made in the past, your worst days don’t define you. You deserve love, so don’t settle for less as a way to punish yourself. You’ve already suffered enough.