The Love Lesson Each Zodiac Needs To Unlearn If They Want To Find ‘The One’

Love is an excellent teacher. Sometimes, we aren’t the best students and learn the wrong lesson. Luckily, we can always unlearn those beliefs that are no longer serving us, especially when it comes to romance.

Here is the love lesson each Zodiac sign needs to unlearn.

Aries (March 21st to April 19th)

Unlearn that passion is enough to sustain love.

Aries, you are the boldest sign of the Zodiac. You are a natural-born leader, happy to take the lead on pretty much anything and everything. In fact, you prefer to. This makes you a little too competitive and self-focused at times, but that’s okay. What you lack in tact you make up in magnetic passion, and lots of it, especially when it comes to romance.

But this doesn’t always work in your favor, Aries. Because, more times than you’d like to admit, this makes you move a little too quickly in your relationships. You don’t fall in love. Instead, you barrel into it headfirst. Whether the person you’re crashing for is the right fit for you isn’t really on your mind. Why should it be? You feel strongly about them. You’re brimming with passion. Isn’t that the sign it’s right? Isn’t that enough?

Not necessarily. Love isn’t meant to feel like a crash landing. It actually feels more like coming home.

Taurus (April 20th to May 21st)

Unlearn that you must “win” every argument with your partner.

Taurus, you’re the ultimate Earth sign. You are grounded and find peace within routine because you thrive on stability. These traits can also make you incredibly stubborn, however. You have your ways and you like to stick to them.

When it comes to relationships, this is where you tend to struggle. Because when conflict arises, you feel that you must “win” every argument with your partner in order to move past them. Even if your significant other has a point, your pride keeps you from seeing the big picture. You want to be right so badly you forget the point is to resolve the fight, not keep it going.

Fighting to win makes everyone lose, Taurus. You need to approach disagreements with the goal of resolving them, not being “right.” After all, a partnership requires compromise. You need to be willing to see things from another point of view in order for your relationships to blossom.

Gemini (May 22nd to June 21st)

Unlearn that you can logic your way through love.

Gemini, you are endlessly intellectual. Your curiosity about the world and all that it holds makes you intelligent, engaging, and interesting. You never run out of things to talk (or think) about. This makes you a graceful conversationalist, able to navigate even the most complicated topics with the utmost ease and confidence.

When it comes to love, your logic-driven nature tends to get in the way because you intellectualize your emotions. While being practical about certain aspects of a relationship is obviously important and necessary, you can’t apply this approach to the emotional parts as emotions are inherently illogical. This includes love, frustration, annoyance, anger, infatuation, fear, and everything else that comes along with being in a relationship.

Stop turning your relationship into a case study, Gemini. Quit mining for data and variables and correlations as a means of understanding it all better, thus being able to predict if you and your partner are made to last. You won’t be able to, no matter how much evidence you have tucked away.

Instead, take the facts out and actually feel your feelings about your partnership, whatever those emotions may be. Trust whatever it is you feel to be true and go from there.

Love is meant to be experienced, not analyzed.

Cancer (June 22nd to July 22nd)

Unlearn that your partner can read your mind.

Cancer, you are passionate and sensual which means you’re incredibly in touch with your romantic side. Casual isn’t something you can do (at least not for long). This is because when you date, you date for the real thing. You want someone who can help you feel safe, nurtured, and alive all at once.

That said, when you do start dating someone seriously, sometimes you have unrealistic expectations for how deep your connection can truly go. More times than you’d probably like to admit, you expect your partner to know what it is you’re thinking and feeling. When they don’t pick up on your cues, you quickly become upset and think it means your relationship is doomed.

Here’s the truth, though: Your partner can’t read your mind, Cancer. They can’t feel your feelings. You need to be willing to communicate with your S.O. and let them know if you need space, extra support, or more affection. Romance isn’t just about being able to feel it. It’s being able to talk and act on it, too.

Leo (July 23rd to August 22nd)

Unlearn that rejection is a sign that something is broken within you.

Ah, Leo. As the most prideful sign of the zodiac, you thrive on being the center of attention, especially from your romantic partner. You need to be loved and adored in order to feel validated. It directly impacts your self-worth.

This is a slippery slope, however, because there are times love will not work out. When rejection happens, you tend to question everything you are. You become consumed with self-doubt. What you once thought were strengths you are no longer sure exist. After all, if you really were that wonderful, why did the person who broke your heart have to leave?

While there are many reasons why relationships end, it has nothing to do with who you are, Leo. It is never a sign that something is inherently wrong with you. Relationships come down to compatibility. Think of it like this: You could be a Gucci shoe but if you’re a size six and your ex was a size 10, it could have never worked. You are still high quality, even if you didn’t fit with them.

Virgo (August 23rd to September 22nd)

Unlearn that you will find a perfect partner.

Virgo, you have a vision for what you want your life to look like. You have your dream home, your dream job, and your dream partnership. You’re driven by big hopes and you can’t wait to see all of those plans come together to form your dream life.

Because with big hopes come even greater downfalls. This is especially true when it comes to your love life. You have your ideas about the exact type of person you could love long-term but you can never find someone who matches up to that vision. In fact, many of your relationships end because they don’t live up to the idealized version you created of them in your mind.

Here’s the thing, Virgo: You will never find someone who is perfect. But you will find someone who is real. They might not check all your boxes but they will check the most important ones. Give love a chance, even if it’s a little different than you had in mind.

Libra (September 23rd to October 22nd)

Unlearn that you must sacrifice your own needs in the name of love.

Libra, you are balanced and easygoing. You want to make everyone around you happy. This is especially true when it comes to your significant other. You love spending quality time with them, keeping the focus on their needs, their interests, and their heart above all else.

You sincerely adore your S.O. and love to adore them, but sometimes you get carried away with romantic gestures and acts of service you forget your own needs in the process.

You never want to bug your partner out of fear of rocking the boat or wanting too much, but this is not a foundation for a healthy partnership. Your partner wants to be there for you, too.

You deserve the same love you give, Libra. Stop acting like you don’t.

Scorpio (October 23rd to November 22nd)

Unlearn that being alone keeps you safe from heartbreak.

Scorpio, you are an incredibly private soul. You are an enigma to most, but you are also deeply intuitive, which means you are able to see through just about anyone and everyone. You can easily distinguish sincere from superficial, good intentions from pretty malice.

Your intuition is one of your greatest gifts, Scorpio, but it is also one of your most spectacular downfalls, particularly when it comes to romance. You look for the writing on the wall, and always seem to find it. However, sometimes, you get the translations wrong.

You tend to project from negative past experiences and assume love will always let you down. You keep your heart locked away in the confines of your ribcage. You date, you play, you have fun. But you never let anyone too close. You never let anything get too real. Because what if it doesn’t work out?

Okay, but what if it does? Being alone will not keep you safe from heartbreak, Scorpio. In fact, hiding away will do the opposite. Not giving love a chance will tear you apart more than anything. Learn to distinguish your fear from your intuition. Separate past from future. Allow love to surprise you.

Sagittarius (November 23rd to December 21st)

Unlearn that there is no romance in routine.

Sagittarius, you have an adventurous, boisterous way of living. You not only thrive in keeping things a little unhinged, you require them to be so. Whether it’s your job, your morning commute, or a Friday night happy hour with your friends, you create playful chaos that keeps things interesting.

As such, you expect the right love to feel the same. And while love is an adventure, you will fall into a routine with one another. This is not the sign love has gone stale and that you need to retreat to find something more interesting before time runs out.

It means you’ve found your person. Besides, it’s within the everyday moments you learn the most about your partner and get to fall in love all over again. After all, your partner’s heart is a whole universe to be explored. What could be more adventurous than that?

Capricorn (December 22nd to January 20th)

Unlearn that the relationships that didn’t last were a waste of time.

Capricorn, you are all about your checkboxes, aren’t you? You have your morning to-do list, your weekly to-do list, your month-at-a-glance to-do list, and your life goals to achieve before age 30 or else your life will be a failure to-do list.

You treat your romantic endeavors the same way, as a series of tasks and milestones that must be checked off. You tend to approach dates more like job interviews, carefully sussing out whether the other person is long-term relationship material or someone to send that “Nice to meet you” text later that evening.

You behave this way because you believe failed relationships were a waste of time. It means you have to move “get married by 25” goalpost further and then your whole life plan is screwed. What’s the point in falling in love if you just have to start over? What would that do for your self-imposed life metrics?

Here’s something to consider, Capricorn: Just because something ends doesn’t mean it didn’t matter. After all, did you ever think that maybe your reroutes were part of the path all along? That maybe that bad Hinge date took you one step closer to finding the real thing in a few months? Or the person who broke your heart in college taught you how to love in the first place?

Aquarius (January 21st to February 18th)

Unlearn that settling down is stifling.

Aquarius, you aren’t like the other Zodiac signs; you’re different. Eccentric. An out-of-the-box thinker, you not only question the status quo but resist it. While this progressive line of thinking is by no means a bad thing, it can get you into a bit of trouble when it comes to finding a relationship.

Given your unconventional ways, falling in love feels a little too mainstream for your liking. It also sounds like an opportunity to be controlled. Freedom is everything to you, so going as far as making a Friday night dinner date reservation makes you squirm. Committing to someone long-term, then, is even scarier for you.

The right person won’t want to control you. Yes, they will want to spend time with you, but they also will deeply appreciate your need for space. You can still be your own person in a relationship, Aquarius. In fact, within a relationship, there are three components: you, your partner, and the relationship itself. All three need to function individually to flourish as a unit.

This is all to say: Settling down with someone else won’t make you lose yourself. In fact, it might just show you exactly who you are, and have always been.

Pisces (February 19th to March 20th)

Unlearn that setting boundaries is not an act of love.

Pisces, you’re idealistic and dreamy. You are quick to see the best in people, especially romantic partners. Even when your S.O. is behaving at their worst, you still see them as the person you fell in love with.

That said, this approach to love can make it difficult for you to maintain boundaries. After all, since you see the best in your partner’s intentions at all times, it’s easy for you to forgive and move on without properly addressing how the behavior truly made you feel. To you, explaining what they did wrong and resetting the boundary they crossed would be overly critical. This isn’t true, though.

Setting boundaries is actually an act of love. It helps give your partner clear guidelines for how to love you and gives them permission to ask the same of you. Boundaries help keep your relationship healthy, romantic, and thriving. It keeps resentment at bay. Most importantly, it keeps the focus on each other.