The Sad Truth About Dating Someone Who Does The Bare Minimum

You never want to remain in a relationship with someone who does the bare minimum. After all, you deserve the world. You shouldn’t be settling for someone who isn’t interested in investing enough time and effort into you. Here are a few bad things that happen when you end up with someone who puts in the bare minimum:

You end up exhausting yourself trying to keep the relationship intact. Since they aren’t doing any work to keep the relationship strong, that leaves the pressure up to you. Unless you want to walk away, you’re forced to pick up their slack. You’re forced to do your half and their half. You end up exhausting yourself trying to plan dates and come up with conversation topics and keep the romance alive because if you don’t do it, no one will.

You end up begging for attention and affection that you should be getting without asking. The right person will do sweet things for you without you having to ask. They’ll notice when you need help. They’ll volunteer to pick you up from the airport and help you carry groceries. After all, your person is supposed to be your teammate. You’re supposed to be in this together. You shouldn’t have to convince them to do nice things for you. They should decide to do nice things on your own.

You end up lowering your expectations. The longer you stay with someone who does the bare minimum, the more accustomed you grow to their behavior. Eventually, you’ll start assuming this is normal. You won’t even realize that you could be in a relationship where the other person is contributing more. You won’t realize that life doesn’t have to be this way, that you could be receiving so much more than you’re currently getting.

You end up wondering whether you’re enough. When your person upsets you with their behavior, but still doesn’t bother to change, it’s hard not to wonder whether they actually care about you. After all, if they cared about your happiness as much as you cared about theirs, then they would never expect you to put up with such unfair treatment. They would never make the same mistakes again and again. When you’re with someone who does the bare minimum, you start to wonder whether that’s what you deserve – even though that’s not the truth at all.

You end up going through the motions. You need more than one person to make a relationship work. If you’re the only one putting in effort, the relationship isn’t going to feel right. You’re going to feel like you’re going through the motions, like you’re only together because that’s what you’re used to.

You end up questioning whether you’re in the right place. Even though you might not mind doing sweet things for your person at first, eventually, you’re going to grow to resent your partner for how much they’re making you tackle on your own. Eventually, you are going to grow tired of this treatment. And when that happens, you are going to wonder whether you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re going to realize that this isn’t the place where you belong and you are going to start daydreaming about something better.