Ivan

The Truth Is, Some People Only Know How To Play The Victim

Some people only know one role because it’s the only role they’ve played their entire lives. This may go over a few heads, but it needs to be said, because if it’s not said here, then where will it be addressed?

We continuously deal with people who only know how to play the victim in every story. Everything is always happening to them and not the other way around. Sadly enough, I think we all have a person like this in our lives and we don’t know what to do with or for them. All we know is what we do, and that’s being present. We run to them in their times of need. We do our absolute best at attempting to support them, but to what end?

We sacrifice our own beliefs and sanity to support these emotional vampires instead of getting them the help they need. What is the help they need? I don’t even know the exact answer to that, but what I do know is that we cannot continue to enable this. When we are constantly present for this victim role we are doing nothing but allowing them to perform. This performance affects us more deeply than we know at the time.

Unfortunately, I’m sure you have one of those people in your life, and it’s time you take back your power. It’s time you protect your energy from being drained by somebody you care deeply for. Even if they don’t understand what you mean, you still have to protect yourself. You have to protect your energy. You have to be able to make the hard decisions needed to protect yourself.

Take into account all the sacrifices you have made to be there for them. Have you ever noticed that less conversation with this person serves you best? Does avoidance of this person bring you peace? Maybe that’s a sign that for so long you have sacrificed your peace to be present. It’s time to stop that and for once put yourself first when it comes to this person. If you don’t, then you will always be emotionally drained when it comes to them. You will always find yourself the audience and dumping ground for a person who still doesn’t see that they only play that role. They expertly play the victim because they’ve always been allowed to do so. Change it up and choose you for once.Â