There will always be people doubting you, judging you, waiting for you to mess up so they can say ‘I told you so.’ There will be people waiting for you to fail so they can keep you in your box. There will always be people who don’t want to see you happy or successful or loved, but as long as you’re not one of them, you will prevail. As long as you don’t let these people get to you, as long as you don’t let their doubts and opinions affect your decisions and your confidence, they will never break you, because the only way to fall into their trap is to actually believe them.
I don’t care if they have evidence that you’re not good at something or if you’ve failed a hundred times before, you should always believe that you can get it right. I don’t care if they’ve seen you mess up in more than one aspect of your life, you should ignore everything they say because your past is not your future and you can always change the narrative. I don’t care if they think they’re better than you or more successful or more experienced, they don’t have the right to tell you that you’re not good enough for something or make you feel like a failure.
Every time you try something new or meet new people, you have two choices: either you go in with unwavering faith in yourself that you will leave a good impression or you can go in with waves of insecurities and doubts because of your past or what others told you. The choice is always yours, you can either believe everything people tell you about yourself or you can choose to ignore them and focus on moving forward in your life. It’s not always easy to silence those who trigger you or remind you of your failures, but it’s easier than living your whole life in a bubble because you’re afraid of what might happen if you repeat the same mistake or if you try and fail again.
And sometimes people who can’t do something will tell you that you can’t do it yourself, or they’ll bring up who you used to be, but that’s where you have to draw the line and choose not to engage with them. The truth is, people will always have something negative to say, or they will make you feel like you don’t deserve success or love or good fortune, but it doesn’t matter as long as you believe that you deserve them.
There will always be people stabbing you and doubting you, but please don’t be one of them. Don’t be another enemy to yourself, be a good friend. Be your own shield protecting yourself from their continuous shots.