Dating with anxiety is hard. You constantly worry about everything the other person says and does, and you constantly wonder if you did anything or said something wrong. It’s a struggle. It’s hard to open yourself up to someone when you’re constantly worrying.
How do you cope with it? I guess if you find the right person, they’ll understand and be there for you during your worst moments. They won’t hold it against you or tell you that it’s all in your head. They won’t tell you to get over it or calm down. They won’t discount your feelings. They won’t tell you that it’s all in your head. They won’t tell you that it could be worse. They won’t say all the wrong things to you. Instead, they’ll tell you all the right things. You may in fact try to push them away out of fear, but they won’t leave. They’ll show you that you can count on them.
For anyone who has anxiety, I want you to know that you’re heard and loved. You can do this! You are not your anxiety. I want you to know that. I think so many people are quick to label people as their illness and that’s not fair. I have anxiety myself and it’s not fun. I worry 24/7. I overthink everything. Can you relate? Do you overthink?
I’m sure the right person will love you no matter what, anxiety and all. But it can be hard to find someone like that, as I’ve said earlier, especially if you have trauma from your past. We’ve gotta move past it, but how? Lots of work. That’s the only thing we can do. Lots of work, but sometimes it’s exhausting and your partner needs to understand that. Some days you may not want to try or cope. Some days you want to lay in bed and cry. This is all stuff your partner needs to understand.
You can’t always depend on someone else. You have to know how to soothe yourself. It’s difficult to do sometimes, huh? But it’s something you have to do. It will make you stronger in the end. How can you take care of someone else if you can’t take care of yourself?