Why Slow Dating (Or Texting For Months Before Meeting) Can Be A Good Thing

Why ‘Slow Dating’ (Or Texting For Months Before Meeting) Can Be A Good Thing

Sometimes, it’s frustrating when your conversations all take place over the phone. If you like this person, you want to meet up with them face-to-face to see whether you’re compatible. You want to take your relationship to the next level, which is never going to happen if you stick to texting. However, there are some benefits to this process, which some people call slow dating.

There’s less pressure.

If you’re scared of getting your heart crushed again, then texting is relatively harmless. It’s a low-pressure way to get yourself back in the dating game. You don’t have to make small talk off the top of your head. You don’t have to worry about what you’re wearing or whether you’re making enough eye contact. You can answer their messages on your own time. You can get to know them at your own pace. And if you decide meeting them is worthwhile, you can work up the courage to meet them in person – but this shouldn’t feel too nerve-racking since you already know each other. You already feel comfortable with them.

You have time to think about whether they’re really right for you.

Even though texting might feel more impersonal than staring into their eyes over dinner, you can get to know a person pretty well over the phone. You can discuss what you’re searching for in a partner and figure out whether you would make a good pair. It’s less intimidating to ask the big questions over text, so you don’t have to hold back when it comes to setting boundaries and admitting expectations. You can talk to them about exactly what you want and see whether they’re on the same page as you. If they aren’t, then you can move on before getting to know each other better and getting too attached.

There will be more of an emphasis on personality than looks.

Sure, you might send some sexts and scandalous pictures, but that isn’t going to take up too much time. The rest of your conversations will revolve around your thoughts, dreams, and opinions. Since you aren’t able to touch each other or gawk at each other, you’ll be forced to care more about their personality than their appearance. If they are boring you or are incompatible with you, their looks won’t distract you from that fact. You’ll be able to make an unbiased opinion about whether they are a good match for you. And you’ll trust that they like your personality, too. Otherwise, they wouldn’t be able to keep the conversation going for so many hours.

You can focus on other areas of your life that are important to you.

If you’re swamped with work and have a million things you need to do, it’s probably better for you to ease into a relationship .You can start by taking some time out of your day to send messages to them, which won’t interrupt your schedule too much. And if they’re worth the effort, you can work your way up to seeing them in person. You won’t have to rearrange your schedule to fit them in until you’re positive that they’re worth the trouble. Unless you really want to take things to the next level.