Your Worst Breakup Will Be With A Bare Minimum Man
Toni Frost

Your Worst Breakup Will Be With A Bare Minimum Man

The worst breakup of your life will be with a bare minimum man because you wonโ€™t know if you made the right decision. After all, itโ€™s not like heโ€™s done anything horrible. Itโ€™s not like youโ€™re fired up about the idea of breaking up with him. You simply arenโ€™t thrilled about the idea of staying with him. He doesnโ€™t give you that spark that youโ€™re supposed to feel when you meet the right person. He doesnโ€™t make you feel appreciated or alive or excited about what the future holds. You simply feel like youโ€™re going through the motions when youโ€™re together, and itโ€™s not like youโ€™re in a rut. You gave him a fighting chance and things simply arenโ€™t working out. You might not be miserable, but you certainly arenโ€™t happy either.

The worst breakup of your life will be with a bare minimum man because you donโ€™t have one big reason for ending things. Itโ€™s not like he cheated on you or broke your trust. Itโ€™s not like youโ€™re ending things with a screaming match that leaves you no other choice except to walk away. Overall, heโ€™s been an okay partner. He hasnโ€™t always risen to your expectations, but he hasnโ€™t sunken to an inaccusable level either. He hasnโ€™t hurt you in ways that your exes have. Itโ€™s hard to say goodbye when thereโ€™s nothing major that heโ€™s done wrong, when youโ€™re on all right terms, when you could probably stay for another year or two or ten if you settled. But you shouldnโ€™t have to settle. You should be with someone who makes you happy. Not someone you can technically put up with if you have to.

The worst breakup of your life will be with a bare minimum man because youโ€™ll feel guilty about hurting him. After all, itโ€™s not like heโ€™s a bad person. Itโ€™s not like he deserves to be left on his own with a broken heart. Heโ€™s actually a pretty good guy. Heโ€™s never hurt you too badly, so you donโ€™t want to hurt him, either. But you need to put yourself first. You need to treat yourself like a priority. Staying in a relationship with someone you feel meh about isnโ€™t fair to him, either. He deserves someone who is wild about him, someone who feels like theyโ€™re getting everything they deserve out of the relationship. If you arenโ€™t going to be that person for each other, then you both owe it to yourselves to move on. To find someone new or enjoy the single life for a while.

The worst breakup of your life will be with a bare minimum man because theyโ€™re almost what you want. Theyโ€™re almost what you need. Almost, almost, almost โ€“ but not quite. You know that you shouldnโ€™t settle, but youโ€™re comfortable together, so itโ€™s tempting to stay put. Itโ€™s tempting to ignore the fact that there might be more out there and tell yourself to stop being so greedy. But youโ€™re not greedy for wanting a relationship that fulfills you. You deserve someone who goes above and beyond to make you happy, not someone who is simply there.