10 Green Flags That Your Love Will Last From Real Wedding Photographers

Wedding photographers have seen happy couples and miserable couples on the ‘best’ day of their lives. That’s why they know what is a good sign and what is a bad one. Here are some green flags from wedding photographers that the relationship will last a lifetime:

“I swear that all of the couples that have split up have smashed the cake in their SOs face. None of the nice cake couples have. Just my weird anecdotal experience. Maybe it’s a sign of respect for each other.” — kylesford

“Green flags: They can’t keep away from each other. Laughing during the first dance, down the aisle, cake, speeches, etc. I know it might be cheesy for some, but themed weddings. People that can dork out together stay together.” — codecduck

“Green flags: a couple who can laugh together when doing awkward poses, when they’re wiping sweat from their foreheads, and when something goes wrong in general.” — FiberWong

“You can tell somewhat based on how the couple treats each other on the wedding day. If they are respectful toward one another (and toward me) during a day full of stress, then I think that’s a good indicator of being able to deal with other problems that may arise during a marriage.” — thr3epointone4

“Wedding videographer here: I try to get to know both people beforehand, so I can work in their hobbies/unique traits into my product. A big red flag is when one person is clearly trying to change the other. I had one dude who loved poker, craft beer, cigars, hanging with his rowdy friends, video games, etc. I planned a cool shoot where I had all his friends in an old west saloon, and he sees his bride to be, etc… but she steps in and declares, ‘Oh, he won’t be doing any of those things anymore.’ Poor bastard just sat there in silence as I awkwardly had to plan them shopping for a Yorkie puppy instead. Green flags are just the opposite. Embracing the other person’s habbits/hobbies/interests, basically not being a controlling freakshow.” — c64bandit

“I was a wedding photographer for many years in the 00’s. It was pretty easy to tell which couples were going to last and which ones would soon be divorced. The main behavior differentiating the two was whether they were on the same team, helping each other and lifting each other up in the face of the inevitable problems and stress that come with weddings. Good couples tackle problems together. Bad couples take sides and fight/blame each other when something goes wrong.” — chriberg

“Red Flags – Nerves are normal but when one of the pair starts doubting whether they should go through with it waaay before the day, you know something isn’t quite right. Green Flags – They make decisions together and have each other’s backs especially when family can be pressuring.” — amy_danger

“Red Flags: Constant apologizing for their other halves behavior/ attitude. Lack of input from one of them. Anger or inability to make a decision and stick with it. Green Flags: When a couple mutually respects the other’s wishes and comes to compromises. Both present at every meeting. Supportive and patient. Friendly and respectful of staff. When you can tell they are both relieved to see one another again and it’s like no-one else is there. It’s like an unspoken conversation with each other and makes me smile.” — AlmousCurious

“A friend of mine is a fairly successful engagement/marriage photographer, as well as a relationship blogger. She says she can tell how in love a couple is based on whether they pay attention to each other during the photos or her, the photographer. I guess it’s the contrast of sharing an experience together versus fretting over optics. I’ve never heard her mention specific red flags, but she speaks very highly of couples who are willing to be silly and adventurous in their engagement shoots over those who are just taking the most glamorous/stream-lined portraits. “ — Chelseafrown

“I used to help a buddy of mine do wedding videos back in college. I found the bigger the country hit they use for the wedding song, the shorter the marriage. Obscure songs seemed to last longer.” — [deleted]