10 Traditionally Attractive Traits That Can Actually Be Turn-Offs

“People that are so nice they will never say anything that might offend you. Niceness is not kindness; sometimes the kindest thing someone can do is tell you something you don’t want to hear.” — Ysara

“Someone really good looking. Back in my younger years, I dated a really good looking guy. Man, it’s crazy the amount of attention he would get from women even when it was very obvious we were a couple. Talking, flirting, staring, etc. Other women just didn’t care one bit – I think the fact that there was a disparity in our looks didn’t help (like ‘how did she land that guy? I’m so much prettier.’). It was weird and, honestly, off-putting. I would not want to deal with that in the long term. The relationship ended for unrelated reasons, but I realized that I didn’t really ever want to date someone really good looking ever again!” — Jonquil73

“Too positive. Like beam of sunshine positive. Nope. Not here. It feels like they would be out of touch with reality to be that optimistic. And they’d hate me as a sort of realist/pessimist combo.” — petitepineux

“Somebody who is overly ambitious. I think the rat race is nonsense. Unless you genuinely enjoy your job like a hobby I think you’re a fool for devoting yourself to it—especially if it means you come home complaining about work after voluntarily staying over. I’d rather meet someone who is lazy at work but earns enough to live the life they want outside of it.” — Selky

“I don’t like dating overly friendly men. They are typically natural flirts and I’m a jealous freak. I’m not saying I like assholes, just not super talkative friendly men.” — GuineaPigLoverLv9000

“Somebody that HAS to do something every weekend. I work a physical job that pays well. I use the weekends to chill hard to recharge for the next week. A slight increase in going out would be nice, but EVERY weekend? No thanks.” — NeinLives125

“Men who can sing. I’ve dated several guys who were above average in this regard and they all had one thing in common: they never stopped singing. The same stories about ‘wowing’ people back in the day on repeat, the same need to sing any possible opportunity or perceived opportunity would appear, the expectation of praise afterwards – all of these things became very old very quickly. In general, I don’t think being to hold a note is all that impressive – it isn’t a particularly rare skill to have, so having it shoved down my throat one too many times has left me feeling extremely turned off by it (as silly as it sounds).” — tallpoke

“As a night owl, I struggle with really early risers that are up at the crack of dawn, wanting to go for a hike, or something equally as active. Weekends are for lie ins.” — AcquiredResistance

“If they strive to be the life of the party they’re probably too much energy for me.” — WhimsicalGrenade

“That erratic bad boy thing. Super hot but absolutely annoying and exhausting to try and date in real life.” — Gnork