11 Concrete Signs The Relationship Won’t Last Long

“I always think of the bird theory. If one person says to the other, ‘oh look a bird’ and the other doesn’t want to connect over the bird (just looking at it and giving a ‘hey thanks, that’s a cool bird’) the relationship is not going to go well. Basically you have to be willing to make small every day connections. I find this is true of a lot of relationships outside of romantic or sexual ones as well.” — Allredditorsarewomen

“Talking on the phone/Facetiming/texting 24/7. Fastest way to codependency. When one of the partners can’t pay attention to their phone, the other gets sour. I’ve seen it a billion times.” — reddbepimpin

“If all disagreements end in arguments. Me and my partner disagree about a lot of stuff. But we can talk, discuss, and even sometimes agree with the other person’s side. It’d be weird if you saw eye to eye on 100% of stuff too.” — jayhitter

“Social media addiction. If the person constantly needs to show the world they have an SO, and that they are just soooooo happy together, and then gets mad that the other doesn’t post as much. Social media addiction ruins relationships.” — Whitley2001

“I was at a party one time and there was a marriage counselor there that had been working for 20 something years in couples counseling. I asked her what the number one sign was that the couple wasn’t going to make it. Without hesitating, she said, ‘If one person shows contempt for the others feelings, it’s over!’” — Marauder

“If the relationship started by one of them cheating on their previous partner and then leaving them to be with this new person. I’ve witnessed two of these in real life and both of them ended with, surprise, more cheating. Like I don’t know why you’d possibly think starting a relationship with someone who you already know isn’t faithful would be a good idea.” — sapphomelon

“If they have strongly conflicted plans for their future. Either means they’ll break up eventually or one or both of them will end up in an unhappy compromise.” — slinkocat

“I heard eye rolling is the most common sign of eventual relationship failure. It shows contempt, which is poison to any type of bond.” — Old_Hamster_4218

“Sexual incompatibility. It doesn’t matter if you’re a horndog or you prefer regular, twice-a-month sex. Just find someone who matches your vibe, otherwise there WILL be tension in the relationship. It doesn’t have to match exactly, but you should try for pretty close.” — Buckus93

“Opening up the relationship after years of monogamy. I’ve seen poly relationships work when they’re poly from the beginning, but from what I’ve seen amongst my circle, a sudden switch to an open relationship after a decade together is a sign that it’s about to implode.” — SpinningBetweenStars

“Moving in together after two weeks. Saying I love you after two dates. Basically anything that happens way faster than it feels it should.” — phreakzilla85