11 Married Couples Reveal Their Biggest Struggle During The First Year Of Marriage

“My version of a clean house versus her version of a clean house. (Hint: my version of clean was close to her version of messy.)” — vainglorious11

“Dishes. Holy fucking shit, how can something so simple be the root cause of everything?” — Lugicarus

“Money. Being broke sucks. She spent too much, I spent too much, we did not agree on what we were saving for, we had too much credit card debt. We had way too much student loan debt. Then we had a kid and found out that we had been rich. There were now new frontiers of brokeness to explore. Daycare cost more than rent. Diapers and formula were more than the car payment. The money that we did not have failed to go twice as far. And now we were tired and pissed off all the time to boot. It got better. But really really slowly.” — UnfortunateBirthMark

“Getting the wife to understand that I need alone time. It’s how I function, it has nothing to do with her, but the longer I go without downtime the less able I am to be loving or enjoy life.” — varisforge

“My biggest struggle was thinking that he would change once we got married. That he would actually care about making home improvements, or help me with chores or dishes or the lawn. I’ve never felt more alone than I did my first year of marriage.“ — [deleted]

“She had no hobbies… I was her hobby. I had lots of hobbies that I enjoyed.. video games, art, basketball, etc… but she had none. It wasn’t too much of a struggle, but it became a pain point later because she would get annoyed that I wasn’t paying 100% attention to her all the time, but she figured out that it was her and not me… she found multiple hobbies. All worked out great… been married 16 years now!” — madwickedguy

“Our biggest struggle was remembering that we are a unit now and that every decision we make has to be with the other person in mind. Communication is key. Remember that the 1st year of marriage is the hardest and it’s not a question of if you will fight, it’s when will you fight.” — Ecj7c5

“Cooking together. I am used to just everyone helping and he was used to (bad past relationships) being criticized and told what to do. It took a while for us to be able to work in the kitchen together without him getting defensive or angry. Now he just admits I am the better cook. (I love you baby.)” — princesselectra

“Fighting over stupid little shit. We once got into a shouting match because the broccoli in our garden wasn’t growing like we thought it should.” — [deleted]

“Scheduling conflicts. We had to share calendar to get on the same page.” — reddit2therescue

“I lived with her for five years prior to our getting married and we already had combined accounts and shared goals. The hardest part for us was adapting to referring to each other as ‘wife’ or ‘husband.’ It was a fun problem to have.” — Critical_Miss