11 Red Flags That Theyโ€™re Unworthy Of Your Soft Heart
Shae Devereaux

11 Warning Signs That They’re Unworthy Of Your Soft Heart

โ€œIf theyโ€™re embarrassed to be seen with you, get the fuck out of that relationship. Donโ€™t ever let anybody make you feel ashamed because theyโ€™re embarrassed to be seen with you. You do NOT deserve that bullshit. If theyโ€™re so embarrassed to be seen in public with you, thatโ€™s on them, not you. You did nothing wrong, they are massive, shallow pricks who deserve to be alone for their entire lives.โ€ โ€” hyrulian_princess

If you get upset about something, confront them, and at the end of the conversation they managed to make you feel guilty for something theyโ€™ve doneโ€ฆ red flag. If they tell you that you canโ€™t do something youโ€™ve always done before dating them (seeing specific friends, getting tattoos, eating specific food, smoking, masturbatingโ€ฆ whatever you can think of that is okay to do in a relationship, of course)โ€ฆred flag.โ€ โ€” Bunny_OnTheMoon

โ€œDemanding to look through your phone. Letting your partner use your phone to send a message, search something, put on music etc. is completely fine but if they start going through your messages, put your foot down and tell them to respect your privacy.โ€ โ€” iamaaronmullen

โ€œIf they always go back on what they say, either to gaslight you or to look cool in front of other people.โ€ โ€” Jakov_Salinsky

โ€œBeing aggressive. Grabbing your arm and pulling you back to bed when youโ€™re trying to leave. Trying to pull you onto him. Forcing your clothes off of you and trying to pin you down. Then telling you that youโ€™re overreacting when you express your discomfort.โ€ โ€” [deleted]

โ€œInsecurity is the BIGGEST red flag. If they feel the need to check your phone regularly or question every person you interact with then they are probably not ready to be in a relationship. Extra points if they try to keep you away from your friends or limit the amount of time you are with others. Relationships should be based in trust, if you canโ€™t trust each other, donโ€™t be in a relationship.โ€ โ€” Bob_Bibity_Bob

โ€œFrom your point if view: always being tired. I was always so fucking tired when I was with a toxic partner, and couldnโ€™t really get back on track since then. I always felt suddenly more rested when I went to my parents or met up with friends, but being with my ex was tiring. Also, when being honest is a burden. When you canโ€™t be sincere without feeling remorse, you are in a toxic relationship.โ€ โ€” Trolleyhoarse

โ€œPunching walls, destroying or throwing things when angry. Get out at the first sight of any violence. It only ever escalates.โ€ โ€” TheOldestMillenial1

โ€œHaving to โ€˜clean upโ€™/smooth things over when they fall out with your friends. A misunderstanding or two can happen. If it is recurring, there may be bigger problems.โ€ โ€” TreatYourself88

โ€œExpects you to take care of them (either monetarily or through acts of service). Obviously itโ€™s nice to treat your partner or do a little over your fair share of the chores. But if they basically latch onto you to mooch, throw that fish back in the water.โ€ โ€” cewumu

โ€œComplete lack of empathy for you when youโ€™re crying over feeling unhappy over something in the relationship. Fragile ego โ€“ย bigย red flag.โ€ โ€” pippi_longstocking09