13 Green Flags That A Relationship Is Worth Pursuing In 2023

“You need to find someone who will enjoy doing nothing with you. Life isn’t about being exciting all the time, if you’re gonna spend a large amount of time together with another person, that person needs to be able to also enjoy the down time when being together isn’t exciting, but constant and consistent.” — Mynxs

“Mutual respect is huge. One thing I’ve hated about past relationships is when they try to mother me, or dominate the relationship in some way. Working as a team, in a reciprocal, not a dominant fashion, is an absolute must.” — jerry_funk

“Any time they do something nice for you that you didn’t ask for and didn’t explicitly expect. No matter how small, it shows they’re thinking of you and that’s important.” — JaiC

“Due to circumstances out of your control, you have to cancel or modify the plans you made with them and they are totally cool with it. No passive aggressive behavior or guilt tripping. Flexibility and emotional maturity are so awesome. Once you find them, you can’t go back to the games and fragile ego!” — flea_bee

“Silence around each other is comfortable and not awkward. That was one of the ways I knew my husband was it. We never felt the need to constantly entertain each other. We’re cool just chilling doing our own things.” — gingerwoozle

“If they ask, ‘What are you thinking about?’ and you tell them the truth. That natural comfort is very uncommon, and bodes well for the communication required of partners.” — apocalypseconfetti

“Not getting bored or annoyed being around each other for long periods of time. I.e. the roadtrip test. If you can take a week or more roadtrip with someone and still want to hang out with them immediately upon finishing, you’re probably in good shape.” — Roland_T_Flakfeizer

“Open communication. It’s a lot better when you can communicate that something is an issue, rather than being angry and acting like a child and being mad at one another, if there’s an issue we talk about it in a calm manner, without getting stressed or angry or worrying about how my partner will react.” — Iwilleatyourwine

“When you nerd out, they don’t try to change the subject, they try to engage. They may not know what I mean when I’m talking about hobbies, but they’re willing to learn, because it makes me happy.” — [deleted]

“The biggest green flag is having the same major values. By that I mean, it doesn’t matter if you have the same favorite foods or colors or movies. What really matters is that you have similar ideas about what makes a healthy relationship – for example, how you feel about sex and affection.” — lawm812

“The first time my partner came over to my place, he gently moved my special stuffed animal out of the way to a nice position before he sat down on the bed. Three years later he still treats my special stuffed animal tenderly and it always makes me happy.” — UnfilteredPacific

“If you are having a bad day and you look forward to being with them because you know it will make you feel better…” — Omicron_Lux

“When my S.O. and I started talking he never asked any questions that were about my body or sex. He did however ask about my life, my interests and tell me that I was the most awesome person he ever met. In other words he was more concerned with making an emotional connection than a physical one.” — macattack237