13 Mistakes Couples Make Early In Relationships (That Will Cause Trouble Later On)

“Not setting boundaries right up front. Once you get into a certain pattern of behavior, it’s almost impossible to change it. It took me a long time to realize that I wasn’t doing this. I was letting people treat me like their therapist or their student instead of insisting on a give and take relationship.” — [deleted]

“Faking orgasms. SERIOUSLY. If you start doing this early on and your partner thinks exactly what they’re doing is satisfying you, how can you expect them to ever get it right?” — clamskypocka

“Lying about dealbreakers early on because they want the relationship to work and hope the other party will change their mind. You should not lie about who you are, what’s important to you, or your life goals and ambitions, nor should you expect that your partner will change those same things about themselves. If you do and you compromise on those things or expect them to compromise on those things at best you might find yourselves resentful of each other, or worse, getting a divorce after years of dating and marriage over something that cannot be compromised (e.g. children).” — Athrowawayinmay

“Immediately starting to take care of their SO. If this is how you show affection, great! But make sure they appreciate it and they aren’t just getting comfortable doing less.” — contrarytoast

“Not getting out of the relationship when you notice a red flag really early. Lots of relationships end because of red flags you noticed on the first date.” — [deleted]

“If you have hobbies or interests that take time, don’t set that shit aside. If you stop doing your thing for a while when you start dating, your partner gets used to that, then when you try to get back into it…Good luck. If you like to spend all weekend hiking or fishing or something, do it at the beginning of the relationship so they know that’s your thing. It sucks when, a few months or years down the line, you decide to jump back into your neglected hobbies, just to have them get upset. Set the tone. I learned this the hard way.” — Illhunt_yougather

“Not talking about things. Don’t hold that shit in – the one you can be open and honest with (that doesn’t run) is the one for you.” — rockoroll

“Not keeping up friendships and relationships with people other than your significant other. You can’t be solely dependent on one person to be your social and emotional support. You need to maintain friendships, interests, and activities outside of your relationship. Finding the balance might be tough, but it’s crucial. You don’t want to break up with someone you dated for 3 years and realize you don’t have any close friends anymore because you spent the last 3 years ignoring requests to hang out and be social with them.” — [deleted]

“Lying. Even about mundane things. It’s incredibly easy to destroy trust, and incredibly hard to build it again.” — zeutlers

“Never use the threat of ‘breaking up’ as a weapon to achieve something. Don’t even joke about it. Only bring up the notion if you’re willing to lose the other person. Once that possibility is out in the open, it’s a bitch to get back in.” — squeeeeenis

“Discuss their relationship problems with others rather than with each other.” — Naved16

“They don’t speak up if something bothers them; They let it fester until that small, small thing becomes huge and they eventually explode all over their poor SO who has no idea it even was a problem.” — pumpkinrum

“Openly lie about their finances. If you act like you make/have more than you do, you’ll either dig yourself into a hole of debt or things will fall apart when you try to move to a more serious level.” — Vlaed